We’re all guilty of trying to guess whether a guy likes us or not, but wouldn’t it be better if we knew, without a shadow of a doubt, the guy we’re eyeing is really into us?
It would save us all from a load of heartbreak and can also give us that extra push we need to make the first move. But how does one know if a person truly likes them? Isn’t saying so enough?
But we’re better than that, right? We want to know whether or not we’re dealing with someone genuine. We need to feel this person out, rather than take their statements at face value. We need to look beyond the faà§ade and see what’s really going on in their heads.
Unfortunately, honest-to-goodness mind-reading is not an option. On the other hand, we have science backing us up.
How do you know if a guy likes you?
Men are simple, but they are also complex. They want to convey one thing with their bodies, but their mouths tell a different story.
Their appearance can give you a glimpse of what they want you to see, but it’s not enough to tell you about the things they don’t want you to see—one of those being how much they like you.
Most men think showing interest is limited to flirting, but women don’t just want the confirmation of initial attraction. They want to know if a guy is willing to go beyond witty banter. They want to know if you’re really into them and not just looking for a stroke on your ego.
What are the clues that tell you if a guy likes you?
#1 It’s the way they look at you. Researchers found when a person is thinking thoughts of love and infatuation as opposed to lust, they focus more on your face rather than on other parts of the body.
# 2 The way they say your name. Addressing a person using their name throughout a conversation can elicit feelings of attraction; however, it can also be a sign that a person likes you.
If you notice, people who are guarded and don’t want to initiate a conversation will refrain from using your name as much as possible. People who like you will try to use it as often as possible to feel closer to you and to get used to the idea of addressing you on a more personal level.
#3 He slows it down for you. Not the pace of the relationship, although helpful sometimes. This is about walking pace. It is scientifically proven that average men and women have different stride lengths because of their anatomical dispositions. Most women have to walk faster to keep up with a male counterpart because of their shorter legs.
#4 He is attracted to you—magnetically. Metaphorically, that is. Men and women who are attracted to someone are unconsciously drawn to face that person at all times. This means they inadvertently place themselves facing the person they like without noticing it.
#5 His voice changes when he talks to you. No, he is not impersonating Vin Diesel. People’s voices unconsciously change when they are talking to a person they are attracted to. Both men and women used lower-pitched voices when they talked to a person they liked.
Must be a Jessica Rabbit thing, but it does give you an idea on whether the conversation might lead to something else. Just make sure you find out what their normal pitch is before you assume anything.
#6 He starts acting like you. Relax. You’re not playing for the same team. I’m talking about mannerisms, initial reactions to position changes and orientation. A study showed when two people of the opposite gender *this might work for the same s*xes as well* start to develop the same mannerisms within a few minutes or hours of talking to each other, they like each other.
#7 They start grooming in front on you. Preening and grooming is a mating ritual as old as time. Once you see your beau touching up in front of you, while still trying to get your attention, he probably wants to impress you. If he does it in front of the mirror and fails to wait for your attention immediately after, he might just be concerned about how he looks in general.
#8 They look into your soul. The windows to your soul, that is. This is crucial because people who refuse to make eye contact tend to be guarded and reluctant to show their feelings. Those who maintain eye contact usually want something from the person they’re looking at.
#9 He thinks you can be a good secret-keeper. This is a more reliable marker if you and your crush are in a non-platonic setting. That’s because this also works for people who can become your friend.
People tell secrets to those they trust or those whose trust they want to gain. If a date likes you, they will feel comfortable enough to tell you a secret.
#10 He thinks you’re a comedian. Even when you’re not. Studies show when a guy likes a girl, he will laugh at everything she thinks is funny—even when it’s not. And rest assured he is not faking. He really thinks you’re funny… because he likes you.
#11 He tries to look dominant and powerful. Men, sheesh. As with most of the male mammals in the animal kingdom, men are no different because of their tendency to push for the alpha male position. This is especially true in the presence of the female specimen they’ve chosen to become their mate.
#12 Your gut will tell you. There’s nothing more reliable than a person’s gut. Take yourself back to the day you met this person or the day they started interacting with you.