So, you told this woman you like her, but she said back off because you don’t have the looks of someone who can be trusted. Ouch. Or maybe your girl said she loves you, but would check where you are and whom you are with every hour—and she doesn’t believe the details you tell her, so she spies on you!
It is normal for a woman who has been cheated on in her past relationships to have difficulty trusting men again. Or if you are currently in a relationship and your girlfriend has caught you lying several times, you cannot blame her for suspecting you to be doing something behind her back. And it won’t be easy gaining her 100% trust again.
What you can do to get her trust
If you want to gain a woman’s trust, here are 14 things that you can do. They are simple, but not so easy. However, if they successfully work, you will have a better chance at winning a woman’s heart or securing your relationship. Here they are:
1. Start with friendship.
Friendship is the best foundation of a relationship. Through a genuine friendship, you can let the girl you like know who you really are without pressure and vice versa. It may be a slower process, but it is more solid than starting with a date immediately.
2. Be real in front of her.
Being true to yourself before the woman you like will make it easier for her to trust you, because she learns what you are and what you are not. Pretending to be someone else may impress her at the beginning, but sooner or later she will find out your true colors and that would make her feel deceived.
3. Make your intentions clear to her.
If you want to date a girl, you have to make your intentions clear. Is it because you like her and you want to know her better? Or are you just bored and you only want to have fun? This will help her set boundaries for your relationship and avoid disappointments too.
4. Introduce her to your family and friends.
If you are serious with a woman, and you want her to feel secure, then introduce her to your family and friends. This way, she would feel important to you and that you are not hiding anything or anyone from her.
5. Be consistent with how you treat her.
Men are good at making girls feel special during the dating stage, but once they go steady or after a year of being together, their treatment towards them turn sour. When a girl notices that her boyfriend has changed towards her, she can’t help think he has found someone else. Therefore, make sure that you remain sweet and affectionate to your girl all throughout your relationship.
6. Don’t break promises.
Don’t make a promise that you cannot keep. Once you have broken a promise, the woman you promised to will be disappointed and think you are a liar. It will be hard for her to trust you again, so think before you vow to do something.
7. Never ever lie and get caught.
There is no such thing as ‘white lie’. All lies, even the small ones, are still lies and can break a girl’s confidence in you. Women are good detectives, so don’t dare trying to get away from trouble by lying—it can make it worse. It’s better if you are honest even if it could hurt her, because at least she knows she can believe you.
8. Be the first one to let her know.
If you are caught in a situation that you know would enrage your girl, like you ran into your ex in the lift and got trapped for an hour in it, don’t try to hide what happened. Instead, tell her immediately before anyone else does. If she knows it from another source, she would feel you are hiding something from her.
9. Be open to her.
Openness is an essential factor in a healthy relationship, because you can honestly tell each other how you feel. It is not good if you cannot trust each other with your thoughts. If you want your girlfriend to be honest with you, make the first move by opening up your feelings and secrets to her.
10. Show that you trust her.
Trust begets trust. You cannot demand trust from a woman, if you don’t trust her yourself. That is why, make her feel that you completely trust her. Don’t check her phone every time you see her, or get jealous with her guy friends easily.
11. Don’t be too friendly with other girls.
It’s okay to be friends with girls, but do not overdo it by being too sweet or flirty with them. You don’t want to give your girlfriend any reason to be jealous with them. Sometimes, a woman can go to the extreme of not allowing her boyfriend see his girl friends anymore, because she is afraid of what he does with them when she’s not around.
12. Apologize but don’t make excuses.
In case you have done something wrong that could hurt her, be humble by sincerely apologizing and assuring her you regret it. You explain your side, but avoid making excuses to get away from the situation. Excuses can actually make you look defensive and guilty.
13. Be patient.
Do not be impatient when trying to get a woman’s trust, especially if it was your fault why you lost it. It takes time to build trust. Therefore, just be consistent and honest with her all the time. Don’t pressure her to trust you because it would be harder for her.
14. Trust yourself.
How can you earn trust from another person if you can’t even gain trust from yourself? Indeed it’s hard to earn trust from the woman you love, and you might feel desperate and hopeless. But girls love to see constant efforts – they want to feel sincerity, patience, and persistence. So if you wish to become trustworthy in the eyes of a woman, learn to trust yourself and don’t give up on winning her mind and heart.
Trust is fragile. It is hard to gain it, but it can be broken in just one slip. Therefore, instead of focusing on getting a woman’s trust, strive to build integrity for yourself. This way, you can be trustworthy to anybody, and it will not be hard to get anyone believe in you.