Are you falling for a guy who seems like a bit of a mystery man? Use these 15 cues to know for sure if the guy you like already has a girlfriend.
Ladies, listen up.
You’ve been dating this guy for a while now and so far, everything’s great. But somewhere down the line, you notice that something’s not right. Your new man’s behavior seems a little off and you can’t put a finger on what exactly is the matter.
You tell yourself you’re just imagining things; that you’re just so used to being burned before that you always want to find something wrong when everything just feels so right. Well, for one, he’s such an eligible bachelor and you can’t even believe such a wonderful guy hasn’t been taken yet.
Or is he with someone else, like a girlfriend, other than you? Is the guy you’re dating really already taken?
15 signs the guy you’re dating has another girlfriend already
It sucks to even consider the possibility that the guy you’re slowly falling for may already be dating someone else. But then again, it’s always better safe than sorry, isn’t it? [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]
Here we give you a few signs to look out for to know if your Mr. Right is already someone else’s mister and you are, in fact, that other woman.
#1 Unanswered phone calls. This is one of the most common red flags to watch out for when a guy you’re dating is already taken. It’s common for people in relationships to want to call each other just to check in or say “Hi” but when you do this to your guy, he doesn’t answer the phone.
Often, guys in a relationship would only prefer to text and would only answer your call at certain times of the day, especially when he’s at work. When he’s home, he rejects your calls or even turns his phone off.
#2 Where’s your phone? Aside from the mystery of the unanswered phone calls, he is also very secretive when it comes to his phone. He keeps it hidden or out of your reach whenever he’s with you. He doesn’t answer calls on his phone when you’re around, or when he does, he goes outside or moves to another room. He also keeps it password-protected. [Read: 11 clear signs you can’t trust the guy you’re dating]
#3 Pseudonym. Your name is stored with a different name or some cryptic pseudonym on his phone. This alone should raise red flags. A guy who hides your name under a different name on his phone definitely has something to hide, more specifically another woman who checks on his phone too.
#4 Weekend bubble. He is never available on weekends. Whenever you ask him, he tells you he has work on weekends, or some other excuse. You also notice that there are certain times when he is unavailable.
#5 Holiday hoopla. Fourth of July, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and even Valentine’s have come and gone and yet, he never spends the holidays with you. Again, he tells you he has to work or has to be out of town. Even if he tries to make up for missing out on the holidays with you by giving you gifts, a guy who can’t spend any holiday with you may be spending it somewhere else—with someone else. [Read: How to fix that nagging suspicion that your partner’s cheating on you]
#6 Always your place. He always shows up at your doorstep at the most unexpected times. You find it utterly romantic—that is, until you suggested a change. You asked him if you can spend the night at his place and he gives you what you know is a lame excuse. That’s when you realize he never really invited you over.
#7 Compartmentalized. He has successfully isolated you and your relationship from every aspect of his life. You don’t know any of his friends or family, and you can’t even see him at work. It feels like you are compartmentalized and isolated, and you begin to wonder if he’s hiding something from you, or if he is, in fact, hiding you.
#8 In and out. While you regularly see each other, you don’t spend more than 3 hours together. He also very rarely spends the night at your place, making you think that he just goes in and out of your life whenever he feels like it. He’s probably less concerned about you, but more about saving his time and energy for his real commitment, his girlfriend. [Read: 16 small and subtle signs he’s probably with another woman]
#9 No family. He tells you he has no family, and won’t talk about his family or even his friends with you. Come to think of it, he never even introduced you to any of his family while you have already taken him to visit your whole clan.
#10 Too much privacy -on dates. You like that he takes you out to these hole-in-the-wall restaurants and you enjoy the privacy in some isolated booths so you can play footsies and even sneak in a few kisses. However, you start to wonder why he keeps dating you in these places and not in more public places?
#11 Wallet watch. Have you ever seen the inside of his wallet? Most guys who have a girlfriend *or wife* would have their lady’s photo in their wallet, or in their cell phones. If he’s very dodgy about showing you his, then he may be hiding something you should be alarmed about. [Read: Love triangles and its confusing complications]
#12 He’s not social. He says he doesn’t have a social media account. But upon further investigation, you find out that he, in fact, does have a Facebook page. It is set in the most private setting ever and he doesn’t even add your invitation to be friends. He defends that he doesn’t do much Facebook, but you discreetly notice he has the app installed on his phone.
#13 Post no pics. You know that if it’s not on Facebook, it didn’t happen, right? So going back to social media, your guy doesn’t want you to post any of your pictures together in your own Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram accounts. In fact, he entirely avoids being in the frame with you during a selfie break.
#14 Ring-a-ling! Of course, you will never go out with a married guy! And he came along looking single and available. You would know because he’s not wearing a ring. However, have you tried looking closely enough? There may be a patch of paler skin on his ring finger, where a wedding band should be, unless he takes it off whenever he’s with you.
Sometimes, some things are just too good to be true. And some men are just too good to be single.
So if the signs above check out with your man, you better check out of the relationship while you still have a lot of dignity left. Besides, going out with an already taken man *not to mention if he’s already married* is like inviting trouble. [Read: Backburner babe – 14 signs you’re just his backup lover]
#15 The biggest sign of all! What you can do to really find out if he is already taken and you’re just his side girl is to take the pro-active route.
Shower yourself with bucketfuls of perfume and be all over him. You can also overdo it on the lipstick and kiss him all over—and make sure you get some tint on his clothes too.
To further up the ante, you can also make out with him and then put a hickey on any part of his body, preferably his neck and chest. If he gets nervous or even flips out, then that’s your cue. If he doesn’t have a woman waiting for him at home, who cares, right?