A break up is one of the toughest things to go through. Even if the relationship was short, it can still feel like the end of the world. You might never know why the other person decided to end things. Or if you were the one who ended things, you may always wonder if there was something else you could have done to fix it. Did you end things too soon? Were they unfair to you and didn’t give you a chance to make things better? Well, sometimes we will just never know the answers. But if we learn from other people and find out the common reasons that relationships end, maybe we can avoid running into similar problems in the future. We need to learn from each others’ mistakes so that we can all have healthier relationships. Here are 15 confessions from people on why they ended their relationships.
15“I Was Too Insecure”
Everyone has some things they are insecure about. Some people are insecure about their appearance. Others feel insecure about their weight or their personality. Feeling a little insecure about these types of things is very normal and common. But as this person confessed, insecurity can go too far. They ended up ruining their relationship because they felt so insecure. They could have just had low self-esteem in general, which can have a negative impact on their relationship. But they also might have thought their partner was doing things they were not and made these accusations just because they felt insecure about themselves. This type of negative thinking can really be a death sentence for any relationship. To be in a healthy relationship, you need to work on yourself and build up your own self-esteem first. Otherwise, you will always encounter problems related to a lack of confidence like this person.
14“He Used Social Media Too Much”
Our parents and grandparents lived in simpler times, especially when it came to dating! Back in those days, you actually had to call people and talk to them or see them face to face. People even wrote love letters! How romantic! These days, guys think it’s romantic to send you a DM on Twitter or just swipe right on Tinder. This type of thinking can make relationships even more difficult. The girl who posted this confession says that her boyfriend’s social media use ended up ruining their relationship. He just couldn’t be trusted when it came to his accounts on social media. It’s a shame, but this is a very common issue these days because almost everyone is on social media. People might use social media to talk with other people while in a relationship, or even end up cheating with someone they met online…when will they ever learn?
13“He Was Jealous Of My Celebrity Crushes”
Well, this confession might seem a little silly, but it actually has an important message. This girl had a jealousy issue in her relationship that just could not be fixed. Her boyfriend got jealous of her celebrity crushes, and it eventually lead to them breaking up. Now, this might seem pretty crazy, and you’re right so why even talk about it? Well, when someone’s significant other gets jealous over little things that don’t really matter, like celebrity crushes, it points to a bigger problem. It means that this guy just could not deal with the idea of his girlfriend having interests besides him or acknowledging that other guys out there were attractive. Guys who get jealous over things like this can often turn out to be very controlling, which can actually be dangerous. A guy should be able to accept his girlfriend having celebrity crushes, after all, she’s not going to meet them!
12“I Never Told Him, But He Was A Bad Kisser”
When you get into a relationship with someone, you’re obviously physically attracted to them. And in this day and age, you’ve probably been intimate in some way before you start officially dating, even if it was just a kiss! Either way, having a good physical connection is important in pretty much every relationship. Sure, some people don’t find it as important as others, but obviously, everyone wants to enjoy the experience of kissing their partner. Well, sadly, this isn’t the reality in every relationship. Many couples actually don’t have a healthy physical connection. This girl confessed that she actually broke up with her boyfriend because he was such a bad kisser! Ouch. It would probably be very tough, to be honest about the reason that she dumped him. Nobody wants to tell their boyfriend that they just could not be with him anymore because he was such a bad kisser!
11“I Loved Someone Else”
Sometimes we just can’t help it, we fall for someone else even when we’re in a relationship. This can be a very confusing and painful experience for everyone involved. And it is pretty much impossible to be honest with your significant other if you do happen to fall in love with someone else. That’s what happened to the guy who wrote this confession. He fell in love with someone else, and he did not want to admit it to his girlfriend. However, he knew they had to break up, so he ended up telling her that his feelings for her were gone. That’s not exactly a lie, his feelings had probably faded at that point if he was truly in love with someone else. But he left out the fact that he had actually been attracted to someone new, to the point where he just could not get over it and fix the relationship.
10“I Was Bored”
It can be tough to keep a relationship exciting. There’s definitely a lot of work that goes into a healthy relationship! It’s not always easy. The longer that you’re together, the more difficult it can be to keep things exciting and interesting. You definitely have to put in some effort. You can’t just sit back and hope that you two will magically stay in love forever without putting in any work. That’s what happened to the girl who posted this confession. Her boyfriend had cheated on her, which indicates that he was not happy either. But even though she felt that she could have forgiven him for cheating, the reason that she eventually broke up with him wasn’t because he cheated on her. She broke up with him because she found herself just feeling bored with their relationship. Boredom can definitely kill a long-term relationship if both parties don’t make an effort.
9“I Couldn’t Love Who He Became”
You can’t expect someone to stay the same all the way through a relationship. It’s just highly unrealistic. Everyone changes. Sometimes it’s for the worse, but sometimes it’s for the better. You can’t predict who someone will be in one year, five years, or beyond. It’s just impossible to know how other people will turn out. When you make a commitment to someone, you have to understand that they are going to change as a person over the course of your relationship. Obviously, if they change for the worse, you have no obligation to stand by them forever, but you should be prepared for that possibility from the very beginning. That’s what happened to the girl who wrote this confession. Her boyfriend changed as a person, and she just felt that she could not love the person he became. It’s a harsh reality, but she probably did make the right decision.
8“I Still Loved My Ex And We Were Going To Get Back Together”
It can be really tough to move on from a past relationship. One really common piece of advice after a break up is “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” Well, that’s just wrong. If you try to move on too quickly, you will probably just end up getting your heart broken again! You need to take the time to reflect on what went wrong and focus on healing yourself first before you look for someone new. Otherwise, you will end up like the girl who wrote this confession. She tried to move on and get into a new relationship, but she was still in love with her ex. Needless to say, it did not work out. If you’re still in love with your ex, you should not try to get into a new relationship as a way of getting over them. It won’t work.
7“I Couldn’t Handle The Age Difference”
Some people like to say that age is just a number. Well, that is absolutely not true. There is a reason that people often look down on huge age differences in relationships. As you get older, it’s not as big of a deal, because both parties will be more mature. But when you’re young especially if you’re still a teenager a big age difference can actually be a huge problem. First of all, in some cases, it can be illegal. And it can also just mean there are big differences in your individual life experiences. One of you might just be way ahead in life compared to the other. This person realized that the age gap in their relationship was just too much to handle. They could not be in a relationship with that big of an age difference. For the most part, people should try to stick to dating people close to their age.
6“It’s Not You, It’s Me (But Was Actually Her)”
There are some very common excuses that people give their significant other when they break up with them. They say things like, “Don’t worry, we can still be friends,” or, “I just don’t have time for a relationship right now.” That’s usually not true, but people just think that saying it will somehow make the breakup process easier for the other party. Another common excuse that people use for breaking up is the classic, “It’s not you, it’s me.” That’s what the guy who wrote this confession told his girlfriend when they broke up. However, as he says here, that wasn’t the whole truth. In fact, it usually never is. He admits that he felt he actually wasn’t the problem in the relationship, and that she was actually the problem all along. It can be really difficult, to be honest with your significant other during a breakup and explain how you really feel.
5“I Knew He Was Cheating And He Had No Idea”
Obviously, cheating is usually a death sentence for any relationship, no matter how good things seemed before. It can completely destroy the trust between two people. After all, how will you know that they won’t do it again? The answer is that there is no guarantee. This lack of trust can result in the end of a relationship. Sometimes there is just no coming back from it. Everyone knows that cheating is a horrible idea and will usually mean the end of a relationship, yet some people go ahead and do it anyway without even thinking twice. Some people can just never be trusted, no matter how honest and attractive they seem. The girl who wrote this confession found out that her boyfriend was cheating and didn’t even tell him that she knew. She just broke up with him, saying that she needed to focus on herself not a bad move at all.
4“There Was No Attraction And I Thought We Were Better As friends”
Have you ever fallen in love with a friend? If you have, you’re definitely not alone. After all, if you’re already friends, that means you have plenty in common right off the bat! There would be no awkward “getting to know each other” stage in your relationship. Plus, if your friend is physically attractive and you’re around them all the time…well, it’s basically guaranteed that one of you will have a crush on the other at some point. Lots of relationships began as close friendships. But even though it can be tempting to date a good friend for all the reasons listed above and many more, it’s not always that great in reality. The girl in this confession admits that she broke up with her boyfriend because she felt they had been better off just being friends, it’s sad, but maybe it was for the best. Maybe they can even be friends again.
3“I Had Too Many Trust Issues”
Trust issues are usually a problem at some point in every single relationship. Even the happiest couples occasionally have some trust issues. Most of the time, if these couples are truly meant to be together, they will be able to work out these issues and regain their trust in each other. Having some minor trust issues is not the end of the world, and it can definitely be fixed. However, sometimes it’s not so easy. Sometimes people just genuinely feel they cannot trust their significant other. This might be for a good reason their partner might have tried to hook up with someone behind their back, or they might have lied to them about something important. But for the person who wrote this confession, they just could not get over their anxiety issues. Many people struggle with anxiety, and it can really make being in a healthy relationship more difficult than it should be.
2“He Was In Debt”
This one might seem a little weird to younger people. If you’re still in high school or college, you may not consider debt when you start dating someone. The younger you are, the less that something like this matters. But as you get older, things like this will begin to matter more and more. In adult relationships, finances are a big deal. If someone is in a huge amount of debt when you are dating them, it can really limit the things you can do together. They may not be able to move out of their parents’ home, or they might be stuck living with roommates they can’t stand. They might not be able to do fun things with you or go on dates that might be a little more expensive. They might not be able to travel. The girl who wrote this confession admitted that her boyfriend’s debt ruined their relationship.
1“I Wasn’t Able To Communicate Properly”
Communication is definitely one of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship. You need to be able to communicate effectively and talk about your problems honestly. If you can’t do that, well, it might be hard to accept, but there is really no future for you. That’s just the hard truth. You can’t spend years in a relationship if you can’t communicate properly. And this confession is just proof of that. This person admits that they had no idea how to communicate with their partner. They did not feel comfortable asking them questions when there was a problem. They did not know how to listen to their partner’s concerns. This lead to lots of arguments, especially towards the end of the relationship. Thankfully, they know exactly what they did wrong, so hopefully, they won’t carry these habits into their next relationship, and they can learn from their previous mistakes.