A great girlfriend can make your life feel like a walk in the clouds.
On the other hand, a bad girlfriend will surely make your life feel like hell!
Bad partners don’t just create problems in a relationship, they give love a bad name.
Every time someone has a bad relationship, they blame love for it, or they mentally convince themselves that they’d never fall in love again.
But the truth is, love doesn’t ever feel terrible. It never leaves us unhappy.
It is bad experiences, and most importantly, the people involved that leave us upset or broken.
[Read: The 20 kinds of lovers in the world and your compatibility with them]
Bad girlfriends and bad experiences
I’ve been in quite a few relationships, and if you ever find yourself stuck in a relationship where it’s just not working out, it’s easier to end it and just move on *if it’s still the early stages of the relationship*.
After all, we’re all different and even if we’re perfect by ourselves, we may not feel so perfect in the arms of someone who isn’t right for us.
Compatibility matters a lot for successful love. [Read: 50 questions for new couples to test your compatibility]
Almost always, it takes way too much effort to try and change yourself to fit the criteria of your lover’s perfect mate, and change your new lover into your idea of a perfect date.
How to know if she’ll be a bad girlfriend
You may have read all the articles and relationship tips in LovePanky about how to be a great boyfriend, and you may even think you’ve got what it takes to be the ideal mate. [Read: 23 foolproof relationship tips for men to be the best lover you can be]
But no matter how nice, understanding and perfect you are, at times, the person you’re dating could ruin the whole experience of love for you.
It’s not their fault really. Sometimes, a few girls you date may not realize they’re doing something wrong, or worse, they may assume they’re right and you’re completely wrong!
The easiest way to know if a girl you’re on a date with is a bad girlfriend potential is by trusting your instincts. It doesn’t take more than a couple of dates to know if both of you are compatible with each other.
The first date is a great litmus test, but considering the odds that the girl you’re dating may be troubled by a bad state of mind on the very first date *probably because she had a really bad day*, you could always use the second date to see if both of you can hit it off. [Read: 15 easy but effective first date tips to charm the girl in no time]
But if you still feel uncomfortable with her on the second date, perhaps you’re better off looking for someone else.
15 types of bad girlfriends who’ll make your life hell
If you’re on a date with a girl or have started dating a girl recently, keep an eye on these 15 types of girlfriends who’ll make your life a living hell. If you see these traits in the girl, point it out at a convenient time and talk about it with her.
But if she can’t change these bad girlfriend traits, you may be setting yourself up for a frustrating relationship that’ll take you nowhere but downhill over the coming months!
#1 The extremely clingy girl. When a girl is addicted to you or loves you a lot, it’s obvious that she’d want to spend a lot of time with you. But has your girlfriend crossed the thin line separating ‘want to be with you’ and ‘can’t do anything without you’?
When a girlfriend gets too clingy, or wants you to be involved in every little thing she does, she may not realize it herself, but she’d start to suffocate you. And most importantly, she’ll stop growing as an individual, and would end up as a boring extension of you. And that’ll leave you annoyed, and leave her more confused than ever about why you’re distancing yourself from her. [Read: 13 really clingy girlfriend signs and ways to avoid it]
#2 The obsessive possessive girlfriend. Your girlfriend’s possessiveness could seem flattering at first, but if she hates it when you do anything without her, or go out anywhere with your own friends, you may start to hate that side of her for it without realizing it. And a girlfriend who’s possessive would always feel insecure each time you meet another girl, even if it’s just a friend. And before you know it, both of you would be fighting every time you go out or meet anyone.
#3 The user. There are a few girls who see you as a great guy who could introduce her to a better world. You may be the guy who’s got a lot of connections, or the guy who’s cooler than everyone else. And she may believe that being seen around you could open a lot of doors for her.
The relationship could start out perfectly, but within a few dates, you may find that she’s more eager to go out with your friends and have a nice time together than cozy up with you on a romantic date. And as time goes by, once she’s used you as a stepping stone and doesn’t need you anymore, she may even start to ignore you or pick flaws all the time. [Read: 10 signs your girlfriend’s using you to get something out of you]
#4 The unapologetic girlfriend. Are you dating a girl who just can’t apologize or admit her mistake? She may apologize in jest for trivial things, but for the things that really matter, she would prefer to give you the silent treatment than accept her fault.
This is a scary kind of girl to date, because she may seem like a sweet girl who’s a lot of fun. But in reality, she may be extremely egoistic and she would break you rather than accept defeat in front of you. She believes she can never make mistakes, and she’s too proud to ever admit to a mistake. And considering the fact that giving in to each other now and then is a big and important part of a happy relationship, you’d just be walking into a trap where you’re the only one hurt and feeding her ego all the time. [Read: Why you should never make this girl your priority when you’re only an option to her]
#5 The whiner. This kind of a bad girlfriend always whines. She complains and never has anything positive to add to the conversation. She talks about how bad her work is, how sad her life is, and how depressed she always is. If your girlfriend can’t ever just see the bright or happy side of anything, she’s probably too negative. And her negativity will rub off on you and you’d feel drained and tired each time you meet her.
#6 The confused girlfriend. This is the type of girlfriend who just doesn’t know what she wants. She’s always confused between choices and is almost always unsure about any decision she takes.
She even flirts with other guys constantly and probably sees you as the standby boyfriend who she calls when she’s not getting attention from anyone else. And the worst part is that she may even ditch you for another guy if she finds someone better than you. Dating this kind of a girl will leave you weak and shattered, and it’ll be a big blow to your self confidence because no matter how good you are, she’d always want something more. [Read: 15 signs she’s leading you on and taking you nowhere!]
#7 The dominating and demanding girlfriend. She’s the kind of girl who full of expectations and demands all the time. She’s a control freak and always wants things done her way. She’s bossy and expects you to do as she says all the time. You may be a nice guy who cares for his girl, but for this kind of a girlfriend, that’s not enough. She loves being bossy and wants to control your life and everything in it. [Read: 20 glaring signs of a control freak]
#8 The too opinionated girlfriend. Opinions are good, and opposing opinions can even be healthy at times. But this type of a girlfriend takes it too far. She’s got her own opinions and she’s too rigid to change it no matter what you say, or even if she’s wrong. She changes her mind only when she wants to, or if her friends convince her. But no matter how hard you try, she just doesn’t trust your opinions or suggestions.
#9 The sneaky snoop. She snoops on you all the time, the very second she gets an opportunity to do so. You may be loyal and truthful, but she still sees a reason to doubt your intentions all the time. She spies on you, looks through your cell phone, and calls and interrogates your friends even if you say you were late because you had to meet a friend. She won’t trust you because she probably has trust issues, and unless you’re okay with her constant doubts and interrogations, avoid dating a girl who never trusts you. It’s not healthy for a happy relationship. [Read: 10 reasons your partner has trust issues and 10 ways to fix it for them]
#10 The no-opinions nice girl. She seems like a great girl. She doesn’t complain or oppose you in any way. But she’s just way too accommodating, no matter what you say or do. She just has no opinions for herself, and no matter how many times you ask her, she just doesn’t have anything to suggest.
You may think she’s coy and too timid, but this kind of a girlfriend is just like like a ticking time bomb. You may assume she’s okay with anything you do or anyplace you take her, but she may only be holding her opinions and thoughts back for some reason. And once she snaps out of it, she may even start cold shouldering you or giving you the silent treatment when you upset her instead of communicating her thoughts with you. [Read: 12 real reasons why couples end up drifting in a relationship]
#11 The fighter. This girl is scary when she gets angry. Her face reddens with rage and she quivers like she’s going to explode. She may even punch you on your face or make a scene when she gets angry because she’s probably too hot tempered and all she sees is red when she gets angry.
If you can tread around her hot temper, that’s good for you. But if you just want to be yourself and not cower in fear each time she gets angry, stay away from this girl.
#12 The I-make-you-insecure girlfriend. This kind of a girlfriend may be a nice girl, but she’s too flirty and too friendly for her own good. She gets really friendly with a guy, even if he asks her out. She goes on dates with other guys even though she’s dating you exclusively. And you see her flirting with some guy or the other all the time. And even when you point out that a guy she was talking to was trying to hit on her and ask her out, she pretends not to have noticed! [Read: 25 truthful reasons why girls cheat so easily on their guy]
Dating a girl like this will leave you tired and insecure, because she won’t change for you. And somehow, every guy she talks too would still believe she’s still available!
#13 The martyr girlfriend. This kind of a girlfriend resorts to emotional blackmail and manipulation to get things done her way. She may be very helpful and sweet, and may even go out of her way to be nice to you. But when she wants something, she uses emotional blackmail to twist your arm and get back at you. She may constantly use lines like “I do so much for you…” “After all I’ve done for you, can’t you do this little thing for me…?” [Read: 16 reasons why people find it so easy to take you for granted!]
#14 The parents’ pet. This girl is very close to her parents, be it her mom or her dad. And no matter what you say or how much you try to convince her of something, she can’t ever make up her mind about anything without talking to her parents about it.
She talks about everything you say with her mom or dad, and after hanging up the phone, turns around and tells you her opinion *which is almost always the opinions of her parents*. If a girl does this, it may mean she’s really close to her parents and trusts their judgment more than yours, or worse, she may believe you’re not man enough to take decent decisions yourself! [Read: 10 signs to recognize a selfish person and 5 ways to stop them from hurting you]
#15 Chronically dissatisfied girlfriend. She constantly compares your lives with others, especially when they’re doing something fun. She logs onto facebook, sees all her friends who are vacationing and whines about how unhappy she is, or just how underpaid you are. No matter what you do or where you take her, her happiness is always only momentary.
She may be happy for a few hours, but as soon as she sees a friend and her boyfriend doing something, she starts comparing her own relationship all over again. You can try your best, but this type of a girlfriend will always believe that other couples are always happier than the both of you!