Is your wife getting paranoid about your loyalty? Has she been doubting your fidelity or do you find it hard to get her trust? Well, probably it is because she feels insecure in your marriage. Her insecurity could be the result of trust issues brought by painful experiences—or you probably have broken her trust before.
Check out these ways on how you can make your wife feel more secure and have a healthier marriage:
1. Be transparent always.
The best way to remove the doubt from your wife’s mind is by being transparent to her about everything. Yes, this could be a bit toxic if you are not used to sharing your privacy with others. However, please be reminded that the moment you married her, you two became one. This means she now has the right to know everything about you.
Transparency involves letting her know your password to every social media account you have—and your phone, of course. Anyway, if you have nothing to hide from her, then this would not be a big deal.
2. Flex her on social media.
Yes, women are paranoid—and they easily become suspicious about every little thing—including why their men would not flaunt them on Facebook or Instagram. As you know, most women are expressive on social media. If they are proud of their relationship, then they are most likely to post about it. Now, they expect the same thing from their partners.
Well, you do not have to post any cheesy messages or photos about your marriage or your wife if you are not comfortable with it. However, I think there would not be any problem if you indicate on your relationship status that you are married to her, or if you add couple or family photos in which you are together. What matters to her is that she does not feel being hidden.
3. Introduce her to your friends and colleagues.
Another way to make your wife secure is by letting her meet the people you come in contact with every day. It would be hard for her to trust you going out with people she does not know, thinking some of them could be a bad influence on you.
Introducing your wife to your friends and workmates will help her a lot to trust you. If she sees that these people you hang out with are trustworthy, then she will let loose. She would stop being suspicious of them.
4. Do not stay out late if not necessary.
A lot of temptations could come to a man if he is still out of his home in the wee hours of the night, especially if he is out on parties and night-outs. This is the usual fear of wives. As you enjoy the night, you probably have no idea how worried she is, thinking you could be with someone else already.
To avoid this kind of paranoia, avoid staying out late at night with friends or whoever unless it is very necessary. You could still go out with friends, but set a time limit for yourself. Be firm in setting a curfew, not just for you but for everyone who’s part of your household as well. This will save your family from a lot of headaches, especially when your children get older.
5. Stay sweet and romantic with her.
Women are very sensitive. They would immediately feel if you start being cold towards them. If your wife senses that you are not sweet towards her anymore, then she might be thinking that you are in love with someone else.
To keep your wife secure with your love for her, never take her for granted. The longer you have been together, the more that you should exert effort in keeping your passion for each other alive. Date with her regularly, shower her with hugs and kisses, and tell her “I love you” always.
6. Always assure her that you love her.
Sometimes, the reason a wife doubts her husband’s loyalty is because she does not feel loved anymore. It makes her think that he already wants somebody else.
Sincerely saying “I love you” to your wife daily would help a lot in keeping her mind at peace. Tell her this with a kiss and a tight hug. Say it in the sweetest way possible. The more that you make her feel loved, the more that she will be secure with you.
7. Set boundaries in your friendship with the opposite sex.
It is not bad to be friends with other women. However, as a respect to your wife, you should limit your interaction with them, whether your wife is around or not. If your wife sees that you are too friendly—to the point of being sweet or touchy—with other women, then it would ring an alarm in her brain.
Help your wife trust you even in the company of other women. As a married gentleman, set a limitation on how you should treat other ladies. One thing you can do is to bring your wife with you whenever you have to meet women friends. Also, never spend time with another woman alone.
8. Never lie to her.
Trust is the strongest foundation of security in a relationship. Once it is broken, it would be hard to mend it. For this reason, make every effort not to break your wife’s trust. Never lie to her, no matter how small it is. When she finds out, it would be difficult for her to believe you again.
Being honest with your wife about everything will help seal her trust in you. Even if you have committed a mistake, confess it to her immediately. It would be harder if she finds it out through someone else. She may get mad at you, but at least your honesty reveals how repentant you are. She would be assured that you are not hiding anything from her.
Afraid to Lose You
If your wife is insecure about your marriage and she seems so upset about it, then it means she truly loves you. Her paranoia or anxiety is just the result of her fear of losing you. If you love her, then protect her from these unnecessary worries. Give her no reason to be afraid.