Should you wait for your soulmate?
Should you stay single until your perfect match comes into your life?
Should you dump your current partner because you think he or she is not your destiny?
I’m not totally rejecting the idea of a soulmate. Well, I was not there when the Universe was created. I did not witness the creation of time, reality, and space. Hence, whatever information you may learn from what I’m about to share to you, it’s still up to you if you believe them or not.
Here are 5 reasons you should consider why you should not wait for your soulmate.
1. Because a soulmate may be nothing but a myth.
Did you know where the term soulmate came from?
The earliest historical record of the term soulmate or soul mate goes all the way back to Plato’s Symposium, written more than 2,300 years ago. In Symposium, it was told that humans originally have four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces. They were complete and happy. But Zeus was jealous and split them in two using his thunderbolt. And now, humans have to spend their lives searching for their other half (their soulmates) to be complete and happy once again. Source: Wikipedia.
If you think that the Greek gods are real, then maybe there’s a big reason for you to wait until you find that one person who was originally sharing a single body and head with you.
2. Because a soulmate is not Biblical.
If you’re a devoted Christian or a Bible believer, you might want to know if the notion of a “soulmate” is written in the Holy Scriptures. Alas, if you will search and read the Bible, the concept of a soulmate or that one and only person who was originally a half part of your body and soul cannot be found in the Holy Books.
The Bible tells a single body and a head though. However, this body is not only composed of two human beings who are perfectly matched with each other. This biblical body is the church, which consists of many people who are united by the Spirit of God.
“Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink.” – 1 Corinthians 12:12-13 (NIV)
This biblical body, which is the church, is headed by Christ.
“And he is the head of the body, the church; he is the beginning and the firstborn from among the dead, so that in everything he might have the supremacy.” – Colossians 1:18 (NIV)
This body is composed of many people, not only two.
“Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.” – 1 Corinthians 12:27 (NIV)
So biblically speaking, if you want a partner who can make you happy and complete, you can find and choose him or her among the people who are part of the body of Christ, the church. And how do you know that a person is part of that church? You can recognize them through the manifestations of the Spirit of God, which are:
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV)
3. Because the best partner may not only be waited for, but also worked for.
You can spend all your life waiting for that one person who’s the perfect match of your soul. You can reject everyone whom you think is not your destined lover, so you remain single. Or you can be in a relationship with someone who loves you even though he or she is the opposite of what you’re looking for.
But what if the best partner you can have is someone you don’t expect to come into your life? What if he or she might be your opposite, but, at the end of the day, through patience, hard work, persistence, understanding and love itself, will be transformed into someone who’ll make you happy and complete?
4. Because the best relationship is not matched, but grown.
If you keep on waiting forever and become stagnant, you might miss the most enjoyable part of life – its journey. Yes, love needs patience, but patience is not only used for waiting – it’s also used to grow the love you already have.
The best relationships and love stories are those where lovers have endured and worked so hard to strengthen their love no matter how many differences or mismatches they have with their own partner. Lovers may be incompatible when they first attract, but through faith working in love, they can both improve and grow to be compatible at last.
Timing is one of the most important ingredients of success, but it isn’t everything. So you cannot rely on timing alone to achieve success in life. The perfect relationship is not matched in an instant, but it is perfected by overcoming the various tests of time. The best relationship is one that can even defy timing itself.
5. Because you have a choice and you make your own destiny.
If you think and believe that your love life is predestined and that you have no choice but to wait for your soulmate who is destined to be the one and only person who can make you happy and complete, then you might want to reconsider.
Personally, I believe that we are the one who makes our own destiny. We have free will and we have a choice.
Biblically, you have been given the freedom to make a choice.
“This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live” – Deuteronomy 30:19 (NIV)
Again, I’m not telling you to not believe and wait for your soulmate. Sometimes, waiting is the right thing. Even waiting for many years can be the right thing. The points I listed above are only for you to consider.
Perhaps you can continue waiting for your soulmate no matter how long it will take. Or maybe you can find your spiritual mate who can build a happy and strong relationship with you despite of your physical, mental and emotional discrepancies.
But again, you have the choice… and that choice is yours to make.