1. You should be proud of yourself. It takes a lot of courage to leave any relationship, let alone a toxic relationship. It couldn’t have been easy for you to walk away from your ex, so you should be proud of yourself for getting the job done. It doesn’t matter how long you stayed with them. It doesn’t matter how many times you tried and failed to leave before today. All that matters is that you’ve finally accomplished the task. You’re finally done with them. You’re finally putting them in your past.
2. It’s completely normal to miss them. You have already done the hardest part by walking away from them. However, that does not mean the rest of your journey is going to be easy. If you are tempted to text them, to apologize to them, to get back together with them, resist your urges. Missing them isn’t a sign you should get back together with them. It doesn’t mean you made a mistake. It doesn’t mean you need to change your mind again. All it means is that they were an important part of your life and now they’re gone. It’s naturally to miss someone, even if they were bad for you. Getting used to a life without them might take some time.
3. Your progress is going to look different on different days. There are going to be days when you feel like your life is finally coming together, when you’re excited about what the future holds, when you can’t wait to roll out of bed in the morning. And there are going to be other days when you miss them like crazy, when you wonder whether you made a mistake by leaving, when you can’t bring yourself to roll out of bed in the morning. Unfortunately, memories can hit you out of nowhere. Your progress isn’t going to be a straight line, but it’s okay if you have setbacks. Just because today is hard doesn’t mean tomorrow is going to be hard.
4. The guilt is normal, but you have to push past it. You might wonder whether you should’ve given your ex one more chance. You might wonder whether leaving was a selfish thing to do. You might wonder whether the relationship would’ve worked out if you waited a little while longer to walk away. You might feel like a horrible person for leaving them when they’ve done so much for you, when they’re clearly suffering, when they really are good deep down. But you had a right to leave. You had an obligation to stop putting yourself through hell.
5. You did the right thing by walking away from them. Despite what your insecurities might be telling you, you deserve better than what you were getting. You shouldn’t date someone who makes you miserable half the time, who disappoints you half the time, who fails to rise to your expectations half the time. You should be with someone who makes you feel beautiful and worthwhile one-hundred percent of the time.