Although relationships should be easy and all sweet, they are usually very complicated and make no sense most of the time.
You are hurt by your partner and still try to talk about it to make things better. But is it really worth it?
Well, if you believe in soul mates, you wouldn’t want to lose the person of your life by giving up so easily, would you?
Relationships take a lot of work and a lot of effort. But let’s be honest, there are signs that herald the end of a relationship.
To find out if a relationship is really over, it is crucial to try certain things, just to be sure.
You don’t want to regret letting go of someone who loves you without at least asking what happened.
1. Communication
I always come back to communication as a kind of Holy Grail to solve all the problems of life.
Ask your partner what’s wrong, why they’re not talking to you, why they’re not responding to your messages, and if they react badly or don’t want to talk about them, it’s because they does not deserve.
But if he has a valid reason, like maybe his job doesn’t let him breathe, try to tell him how much it would mean to you if he spent more time with you two, if he talks to you, calls you and replies to your messages.
If he does not change his behavior, tell him that you will not repeat yourself. There’s no point in not sleeping because of someone who doesn’t respect you and your needs.
2. The “no contact”
If the communication is not working, try to distance yourself completely and see what happens.
If he sees that you have changed and you are no longer there for him, he will start to wonder what he has done wrong and he will try to improve it.
If he doesn’t call you the same day you decide to distance yourself, I don’t think you need to wait any longer. You deserve more than a blank screen on your laptop.
3. What made you fall in love with him?
Ask yourself these questions: What made me fall in love with him? What brought us together?
Go back to the very beginning and think about the things that were so appealing about him.
If he has completely changed, then he is not the person you fell in love with, and why try to bring him back to what you are used to?
I mean, of course, people change, they get better every day, but let’s be honest – if he’s changed into someone completely new, he’s not who you want to be anymore.
4. Try something new
If your communication is good, but the relationship is just starting to get boring and you can’t find anything interesting to do together, try something new.
Try something you’ve never done before and analyze the situation. If you feel refreshed, as if your relationship could go on without you questioning it, then you’ve done a great job!
If you’ve never been on vacation together, go! Pack your stuff now and have fun!
5. Recognize the problem
Well, we all suffer from things that have happened in the past.
If you’ve seen a lot of marriages and relationships crumble, it may be something you’re used to and it will be difficult not to do something that was instilled in you from an early age.
Also, the people around you can influence how you react in your relationship. Just make sure that the emotions you are feeling are your own, not someone else’s.
Then, when you have the answer to this question, be sure to fix it. Why do you feel unloved or why do you feel the relationship is over?
Is it something we can change? If not, there is little you can do.
6. Slow down
It is very important to relax once in a while and watch what is going on. See the relationship from a whole new perspective and understand what’s going on.
Take the time to observe the situation and take care of yourself. We often get carried away by emotions and do not take the time to analyze them.
Now may be a good time to do it.
7. It is not your responsibility to save the relationship
The most important achievement ever! It is not your responsibility to save the relationship.
Watch what happens when you sit down and take time to think.
Maybe the best solution is to go and move on, but it may also be a phase that you both have to go through.
Just know that you cannot save something that is already lost.
