What happened to the days when sipping on a milkshake with two straws was the sweetest thing to do? What about asking a woman’s permission before kissing her? Also, can someone please tell me where chivalry went?
How can we bring old school passion back to the modern age?
Even amidst all the chatter of the modern world, it is not impossible to breathe some passion into your life. Here are 8 passionate gestures from the olden days that need to make a comeback before I, along with millions of women in the world, wither away in inglorious cynicism.
#1 Song writing. If you are musically inclined, please oh please, write your loved one a love song. It does not have to be a full 4-minute hit. It does not even have to make any sense. There isn’t even any need for lyrics. Just write us a little melody and we will be happy for the rest of our days.
If you can spend hours jamming with your band, then you can certainly set some time aside to profess your love through music. All women want is something that comes from the heart and nothing speaks louder than music created specially for us.
#2 Love letters. We understand how hard it can be for men to communicate, especially when they are put on the spot. When we ask you if you love us, it would be nice if we got a little more than a nod and a grunt. How about sprucing things up and writing your loved one a love letter?
Just a few lines saying how much you care and value us being in your life. We will even accept it if it comes via email, although you should keep in mind that you get bonus points if it’s handwritten on hundred-year-old paper and delivered via raven.
#3 Eating in. I will be the first to admit that I love being wined and dined. Passion is certainly prevalent at a beautiful restaurant that serves beautiful food and beautiful wine amidst a beautiful ambiance. However, there is no need to fork out hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars to make us happy.
What many men do not realize is that it is not the price tag of the dinner that counts, but the effort put into it. We will pick a meal made by you any time over a fancy dinner out. If you are not much of a chef, make the effort to learn. Google simple recipes online, and stun your loved one with a prettily set table, candles and a homemade meal. Even if it doesn’t taste glorious, you can bet your bottom dollar that we will appreciate the grand gesture of love.
#4 Tune out technology. I blame the lack of passion in everyday life on the all-consuming presence of technology. After a long day at work, many couples head home and end up zoning out to the television, playing games on their iPad or watching shows on their laptop. My fiancé and I are guilty of this horrible habit.
One day, we took matters into our own hands and tuned everything out. The television and all the other mod-cons stayed off the entire time, and we spent the evening chatting and just enjoying each other’s company. It is sad that the inundation of technology in everyday life has left us totally handicapped when it comes to having a decent conversation with the one you are living with. You will be surprised at how romantic it can be to just sit and talk to your partner without any distractions.
#5 Practicing chivalry. Guys, you need to prove to us that chivalry isn’t dead and buried six feet under. The little things in life really mean a lot to women. Old school gestures like holding the door open, pulling out her chair, kissing her hand and letting her order before you are noticed and deeply appreciated.
Even some of the biggest feminists enjoy the occasional pampering. Sure, we want the right to vote and equal pay and all that jazz, but that does not mean we want you to do away with chivalry. Indulge us every so often, will you?
#6 Handmade gifts. Whoever put the idea into your head that we need diamonds and pearls to be happy is pure evil. Yes, we do enjoy receiving expensive gifts every so often, but there is truly no need for them all the time for us to be happy. We love receiving handmade gifts, no matter how gnarly they look. My fiancé took the time to hand paint a salad bowl for me, and I value it far above any piece of jewelry that he has ever bought me. I am sure that the woman in your life will feel the same.
#7 Dancing. The art form of dance is prevalent in every culture on earth, and it’s a wonderful expression of emotions. Every form of dance, from classical ballet to modern hip-hop, will tell you that no matter the rhythm, dance can and will perfectly express what you feel.
However, steer clear from booty shaking, cleavage showing grinding in the club. There’s nothing romantic about that. Instead, why not invite your lover to dance the next time you walk past a busker in the street? Even more romantic than that? Dancing under the stars with no music. Sigh.
#8 Being respectful. Another gesture from the olden days that needs to make a comeback is being a respectful gentleman. Although closely linked to chivalry, it is not quite the same thing. Being respectful has to do with you being patient in the way you talk to her, behave around her and expect things from her.