When you’re single AF, you hate seeing happy couples on the street. Okay, that might be a bit of an exaggeration. You’re not a monster. You get that other people are in love and happy. You don’t want them to break up. But it’s not the best feeling in the world, especially when you’re having moments of loneliness. You definitely hate seeing happy couples posting on social media. You can’t believe what people share and you want to scream “TMI” most of the time. But when you’re in a relationship, you have no problem sharing that stuff on your Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram accounts, and you don’t understand why anyone would have an issue with that. It’s kind of funny when you think about it. There are actually some things that are generally okay to share and others that most people would say you shouldn’t. Here are 8 relationship moments you share on social media and 7 you NEVER should.
15Yes: A Sweet Selfie
Of course the couple selfie is a thing and you’re going to post them sometimes. You’re only human and this is a fun thing to share when you’re in a long-term relationship. You’re proud of who you’re dating and you want to share your happiness. There’s nothing wrong with that. But make sure that you’re posting a selfie that is super cute and sweet. You don’t want to bug people and be too cheesy or romantic. You just want to show that you’re in a good relationship. So you can absolutely post a good couple selfie every once in a while. Your friends will think that you guys are adorable and you’ll get more than a few positive comments. No one will think that you’re bragging or anything like that. This is one of the best things to do when you want to post about your relationship on social media but you don’t want to annoy anyone.
14Yes: Sharing Your Boyfriend’s Success
Did your boyfriend get an amazing new job that is basically his dream? Did he get a promotion? Did he get into grad school or finally finish his program? You can absolutely post how proud you are of him on your Instagram and/or Facebook accounts. There’s no reason why you can’t do this. You’re thrilled with the success that he has found and you want to share it with other people. You’re spreading the positive vibes essentially and no one can tell you that’s a bad thing to do. If people complain when you do this, they’re just jealous that you’ve found a great guy, so don’t even listen to them. You’re not doing anything that you shouldn’t be doing and this is not in the bragging category at all. So go ahead and do this. It’s definitely one of the relationship posts that you can share on social media.
13Yes: Sunday Brunch Photos
You love brunch. Your boyfriend loves brunch. Everyone loves brunch. It’s just a fact. You can definitely post some photos of the awesome meals that you and your BF enjoy on the weekend. It’s pretty normal to post photos of your food, and if you’re in a serious relationship, then sharing some amazing meals is probably something that the two of you love doing. You would actually be kind of weird if you never did that. After all, you have to eat, and if you’re a foodie (and you probably are), then you love to eat a lot. Don’t worry about being annoying. As long as you don’t post your amazing avocado and egg toast and then talk about how your boyfriend is the best boyfriend ever in the caption, you should be okay. There are always going to be people who complain about you and don’t like what you’re doing but haters gonna hate, as Taylor Swift says.
12Yes: A Cute Snapshot From Your First Trip
Going on your first vacation with your significant other is a huge deal. It’s such a big deal that you should post it on social media. As long as you’re posting a cute photo of either the two of you or the scenery, then this is something that you should do. Sure, people might be jealous that you’re staying at a beautiful resort or staring at the beach or in a cool city, but hey, people are always going to be green-eyed monsters about something. It’s just in their nature and they can’t help it. It has nothing to do with you. There’s only one thing that you should never do when posting a picture from your first vacation with your boyfriend: you should never say that it’s your first trip. Because that’s private. And you shouldn’t feel the need to share that. That’s just strange. Not trying to judge you or insult you or anything. Just saying.
11Yes: Saying You’re Moving In Together
If you and your boyfriend are moving to the next stage of your relationship and moving in together, you can definitely share that on Instagram and Facebook. Why not? As long as you’re not a jerk about the whole thing, you should be fine. Don’t say something like “I finally found a guy that I can stand to live with” because that’s pretty insulting. And don’t say something like “I just know that he’s going to propose once we’re living together” because that’s just kind of crazy. But definitely share that this cool and exciting thing is happening. Like anything else, if you can make it funny, then post it. That’s pretty much a rule of life when it comes to social media. Just think about what you want to see on your friends’ feeds. You definitely appreciate it when they take a humorous approach to a situation, right?
10Yes: Your Relationship Status
There’s nothing wrong with changing your status on Facebook from single to in a relationship, so this is definitely a yes. No one is going to think that it’s weird that you did this. Sure, it might not be super popular anymore since people use all kinds of social media platforms these days, but it’s still a thing. You should be prepared for all kinds of mushy comments like “Awwww you guys are so cute” or “OMG you finally got a boyfriend!” Okay, maybe that last one is a bit mean and not all that mushy. But your friends mean well. They really do. They’ve suffered through all of your bad dates and crappy dating situations so they totally agree that this is a big thing in your life. As long as you don’t post that your new boyfriend is the best boyfriend ever and that no one has such a good guy, you should be fine.
9Yes: An Engagement Announcement
Yes, you should definitely share the fact that you’re engaged on social media. However, make sure that you’re not sharing the fact that you got engaged immediately after the proposal happens. Because that’s just lame. And that just proves that you care more about the ring on your finger than the person that you’re going to spend your life with and that’s just weird. The day after you get engaged is probably the best time to post a smiling photo of yourself, hopefully with your now fiance, because that’s pretty cute. Here’s the truth: if you post this photo the second that you get engaged and you say that it just happened, people will talk, and they will think it’s strange that you’re not celebrating and living in the moment. Just something to think about and something to be careful about. Otherwise, post away.
8Yes: Joking About Wedding Planning
If you’re going to post about your upcoming wedding — and, let’s face it, you probably are — then you really do have to make it funny. Otherwise, people are going to think, “Oh, there she goes again, bragging about the fact that she’s engaged. We get it.” Do you want people to respond to your Facebook or Instagram posts like that? Probably not. And that’s true whether these are your friends or relatives or social media acquaintances. So go ahead and make some jokes about wedding planning. Chances are, you can come up with some pretty good ones and then you will be in an even better mood because not only are you getting married but you’ve realized that you have an amazing sense of humor. You definitely know some people that are married or are engaged. They will probably chime in once they see your Facebook status or Instagram post and you can message them about wedding planning so you don’t annoy other people. Problem solved.
7Never: A New Couple Selfie Every Day
If you really feel the need to document your love on a daily basis, you should know that this is sometimes that you should never do. If you want to annoy everyone on your feed, then sure, go ahead and do this. But since that probably isn’t your goal, then you don’t want to do this. People know that you have a boyfriend. They really do. And they don’t want to see him on your feed all the time. Chances are, your friends and relatives follow you on Twitter and Instagram and are your Facebook friends, so they especially already know that you’re in a relationship. There’s no need to shove it down their throat and take a million couple selfies. It also makes you look super insecure and like you don’t even believe that you have a boyfriend, and that’s just never a good look. So don’t do this. You really won’t be missing out.
6Never: A Ring Selfie
Yes, the ring selfie is a thing, and it’s incredibly annoying for other people if you post even just one of these. This means that you’re taking a photo of your ring. As if your ring deserves that kind of photographic treatment and spotlight. Yup, it’s as bad as it sounds. You should never place your engagement ring on a blank background and take a photo. You should never take a photo of your hand with the ring on your ring finger. And you should definitely never take a photo of your ring in the ring case. Just no. Don’t do this. Of course you want to share that you are engaged, especially if it’s new, but make sure that you’re not being obnoxious AF. Because then you may be getting married but you will have lost a lot of your friends and family members. And you probably love them and want them to stick around.
5Never: Saying That You Had A Great First Date
Look, people know that first dates are not always amazing… or anything even close to amazing. It takes a while to find someone that you like. You have to kiss a lot of frogs and talk to a lot of guys in bars while trying to get through the evening. It’s just a thing. Eventually, you meet an awesome guy and that’s it, you’re in a relationship and everything feels magical and lovely. That’s what you strive for when you’re single and dating. But if there’s one thing that you should never share on Facebook (or any other social media platform), it’s the fact that you just had a great first date. It’s just creepy if you do this. People will wonder what has gotten into you and why you feel the need to overshare. Because that’s exactly what it is: TMI. If you do start dating this guy seriously and you become Facebook friends and he sees this, he might not love it.
4Never: Talking About Fights
It’s a fact that you and your boyfriend are going to argue. Nothing is perfect and relationships definitely aren’t anything even close to that. Whether you and your boyfriend have one big fight a month or it’s more random than that, or maybe the two of you get on each other’s nerves sometimes and then get over it, you just don’t want to be sharing that on social media. People are going to wonder why you’re still together and they might take things the same way. Your friends and family might start talking to you about it and wondering why you haven’t dumped this guy yet since they’re going to assume that there is trouble in paradise and you shouldn’t be together. And if you know that nothing huge is wrong and that you’re just going through normal relationship problems, then you won’t love having that conversation.
3Never: An Engagement Announcement Right After It Happens
If your boyfriend just proposed to you and now he’s your fiance, it’s not the best time to post this on your social media platforms. It’s just not. It proves that you’re insecure, that you feel this need to share everything with everyone and that you can’t just enjoy your life. You need to care more about keeping certain things private. Sure, you can absolutely share the fact that you are getting married, but you should definitely wait until the next day. So another thing that you should never share on social media is definitely the fact that you just got engaged a few hours ago… or, worse, even just a few minutes ago. People definitely do this and it’s definitely a problem. If you saw someone on your friends list do this when you were scrolling through Facebook one night, would you think it was a good idea? Probably not. So you should definitely steer clear.
2Never: Play-By-Play Tweets
Yes, you have a boyfriend. Yes, you hang out with him. You grab brunch on Sunday and then go to your favorite coffee shop and walk around your neighborhood and go grocery shopping and run errands and make dinner and finally watch The Wire or Breaking Bad together. But you don’t need to tweet about it. And you definitely don’t need to tweet about it and mention that you and doing all of these things with your boyfriend. It’s kind of obvious that if you’re in a serious relationship, you spend time with this person, and you especially spend time together on the weekends. So chill with the play-by-play tweets. You are not making yourself look very good. You’re only annoying other people and making them not want to follow you anymore. If you want to have zero followers, then go right ahead.
1Never: Cheesy AF Facebook Posts
Do you really want to post every cute and romantic thing that your boyfriend says to you? If you do, then you need to take a look at your self-esteem. And maybe how you spend your days. Because you should be way too busy working and living your life to brag to everyone about how amazing your boyfriend is. Sure, you may not think that you’re bragging, but guess what? If you’re doing this, then you are absolutely bragging, and people hate it. They may not hate you — at least not yet — but they will definitely get super annoyed if you keep doing this. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. If you had to see your BFF bragging about her BF in her every Facebook status, would you be happy for her or hate that she’s saying this? You would hate it for sure. If you follow these social media rules, you will definitely have it all: a great boyfriend and your friends and family won’t hate you. Score.