Does your boyfriend start ignoring your texts or calls? Does he no longer greet you during special events? Does he no longer appreciate your time and efforts? Or, does he no longer listen to you? These are just some of the signs that your boyfriend stops seeing your importance as his girlfriend. Every woman knows how painful it is to not get the importance she used to get from her boyfriend.
Ladies, you deserve to be treated with respect. You deserve to be given the attention you need. If your boyfriend starts ignoring you, you need to do something about it. Of course, breaking up with him is the last thing you will do. You might want to try first to make your boyfriend realize your importance as a partner and as a woman. Here are some ways for you to do so:
1. Know your worth.
First, you need to know what you deserve- that is, to be loved, cared for, and valued by your partner. Don’t forget that you are special. You are amazing. Hence, value yourself. Don’t let your boyfriend keep making you feel that you are not someone important. In fact, he is lucky to have you, so he should treasure you just as how you treasure him.
2. Tell him what you feel.
Open communication is always the key to a good and healthy relationship. If you start feeling like he doesn’t value you anymore as his partner, you need to speak up. Be honest about what you feel. Express your grievances. Be specific.
However, you may not always focus on the negative. Emphasize that you’re telling all of these things to him because you want your relationship to work. You want to stay honest with him. By expressing your feelings, you are helping your boyfriend realize his lacking as well as giving him a chance to make it up to you.
3. Act what you feel.
Sometimes, telling your boyfriend about what you feel is not enough. You might not see any changes, weeks or even months after your lengthy conversation with him. He might think the scenario is nothing new to him. Now, to make him feel the weight of the issue, let your actions speak to him. Create a little distance. Don’t always call or text. Don’t always see him. Don’t always follow what he says. Giving him a cold shoulder will make him realize how serious you are about the issue. Also, not seeing him that often will make him long for you.
Remember, if he really loves you, he will not allow you to keep feeling unappreciated, unimportant, and unloved. He will make it up to you. He will make you feel important again.
4. Go out with your other friends.
It is always a good thing to spend some time with your friends even when you’re in a relationship. Going out with them will make you feel refreshed. It will make you feel like you’re not in a box.
Now, going out with your friends is even more helpful when your boyfriend starts making you feel less important. Make him see that you’re having fun with your friends. Show him that your happiness does not only depend on him. He might just realize that he can’t afford to see you getting used to a life without him.
5. Limit the things you always do for him.
Do you always cook for him? Do you always give him a massage? Are you always the one who makes peace with him everytime you fight? Are you always the one who says sorry even when he’s the one at fault? He might be too used to seeing you being there for him always and being head over heels in love with him that he no longer sees how important your role is in his life.
To avoid that to happen, make sure that you limit the things you always do for him. Yes, limit, not stop. If you stop doing the things that you used to do for him, it might make him feel that you no longer care for him So, make it just enough for him to realize your importance.
6. Show how independent you are.
One of the effective ways to make your boyfriend realize your importance is to show him how strong and independent you are. Loving him doesn’t mean making him your world. Show him that you can still do the things you love doing- even without him. Travel alone. Go to work alone. Eat alone. Watch a movie alone. Doing these things all by yourself will make him realize that he’s not the only source of energy that powers your life.
7. Moderate your tolerance.
If you’re too tolerant of the things he does, even if you don’t like them, then he will think that he’s not doing anything wrong at all. He will keep doing this his own way. Also, if he thinks he has full control over things and over you, it will be too easy for him to stop seeing your importance.
Hence, moderate your tolerance. Stand your ground. Know when to let him do certain things, and know when not to let him.
8. Monitor your yeses.
In connection with the previous tip, if you always give in to whatever he wants, your boyfriend might be too complacent. He will not take you seriously. Thus, never be that yes type of girlfriend. Rather, monitor your yeses, and learn to say no when needed. Never ever allow him to treat you less.
Sometimes, you can say you don’t have to take an effort to make people see your importance. However, when you are in an unhealthy relationship, you don’t just simply get out without trying to fix it. If he starts failing to see your importance, you might want to help him realize how lucky he is to have you. Now, if he still continues to ignore you and not treat you as his partner, you know what to do.
Remember: You are strong. You are worthy to be loved. You are beautiful, and you are important.