When you’re a shy girl, life can be a bit of a confusion.
All the girls think you’re too shy.
Some guys avoid talking to you.
And the ones who are close to you think you need to start interacting with people more often.
How does life feel as a shy girl?
You may think you need to be more like one of your girl friends who finds it so easy to talk to anyone she wants to.
[Read: 15 really easy conversation starters to talk to any guy]
But you know what?
You will overcome your shyness soon, when your mind’s ready for it.
After all, it’s just your social anxiety acting up. You feel like you have nothing important to add to the conversation so you just shut up. Or perhaps, you’re afraid people will think you’re stupid if you speak too much.
But don’t worry about it just yet.
Just have fun and don’t change your life for anyone unless you want to.
And when it comes to dating games, try to look at it from a guy’s perspective. You’ll be pretty pleased with yourself for being a shy girl.
Do guys like shy girls?
Shy girls attract guys like moths to a warm flame. But not all shy girls have the grace and the ability to do that.
Being shy isn’t a curse. It’s more like a wall you build around yourself. And as long as you know how to give the guy you like a good peek at you from behind your high shy walls, you’ll have him and every other guy clamoring for your attention all the time. [Read:How to get a guy’s attention in any circumstance]
Many outspoken girls may tell you that guys hate shy girls *they’re probably jealous*. In reality, guys don’t dislike shy girls at all. They find them mysterious and totally appealing.
In fact, many guys actually dislike dating girls who can’t stop talking. Being shy is an advantage. Use your shy side to your benefit and it’ll do wonders for your love life.
Reasons why guys are smitten by a shy girl
Want to know a good reason behind why most guys love a shy girl? Well, I’ll give you 20!
#1 Shy girls are like a puzzle box. A guy would never know for sure if he’s doing the right thing while trying to impress her. This makes the chase more challenging and guys love that! [Read: Why guys love a chase when it comes to attracting girls]
#2 Shy girls can be intimidating. Your shyness can be confused with cold arrogance, especially when you look pretty. This may scare several guys off from talking to you, but the great guys will always want to know you better.
#3 Shy girls are mysterious. They’re unpredictable because their emotions can’t be read easily, and this makes every guy try so much harder to please you.
#4 Shy girls look cuter and more feminine. And any guy who’s loaded with testosterone loves a girl who behaves like a graceful girly girl. [Read: How to be graceful and elegant in 10 easy steps]
#5 An outgoing girl with too much going on in her life can make a guy feel insecure, especially when she’s always surrounded by other guys. On the other hand, a shy girl takes her time to interact with new guys and that makes her boyfriend feel more secure and loved.
#6 Aggressive girls are better as friends. A guy expects a girl to be different from him. If a girl behaves aggressively like a complete tomboy around a guy, he may never even notice her as a dating potential. [Read: 20 reasons why a guy may never ever like you back]
#7 Shy girls almost always appear innocent and sweet. When a guy has a conversation with a shy girl, he’ll feel more drawn towards her innocence and fragility.
#8 A shy girl who’s not so shy in bed is every guy’s dream. Do I need to explain this? If you can be a shy girl everywhere else, but turn into a wild cat in bed, he’ll probably end up breaking down in happy tears just to be dating a girl as awesome as you. [Read: 20 things that turn a guy on sexually about a girl]
#9 A guy feels more protective around a shy girl. Guys always have a protective streak in them. When they’re with a shy girl, their protective instincts kick in stronger. And that makes them feel better about themselves.
#10 Guys find a shy girl’s body language and facial expressions more endearing. A shy girl can mesmerize any guy when she’s talking to him. Talk in a soft, low voice and don’t worry about sounding shy. Any guy you’re talking to would probably be smiling wide and staring at you like a kid staring at candies through a window display.
#11 Fewer shy girls. Let’s face it. There aren’t many shy girls in the world. And that makes you all the more desirable. Most guys like shy girls, and when there are so few shy girls out there, you’d be more desirable than any other kind of girl.
#12 A shy girl’s awkwardness makes her more attractive to guys.
#13 Guys like being in control of the relationship. Even if they’re not directly controlling the relationship, they at least want to feel like they’re the one holding the reins of the relationship. And shy girls don’t have a problem with allowing the guy to feel more powerful in the relationship.
#14 Shy girls seem more trustworthy, vulnerable and innocent, which makes any guy fall more easily. And quite frankly, a girl’s vulnerability can be more appealing than any other aspect when it comes to attracting guys.
#15 Guys feel more comfortable talking to a shy girl because they feel like you won’t constantly oppose them all the time just to prove a point. This makes them feel more comfortable around shy girls.
#16 Shy girls are like a box of mixed chocolates. Shy girls keep a guy interested for a lot longer than other girls because the guy would constantly want to know more interesting things about her. And it does take a while to get to know a shy girl a lot better. [Read: 30 sexy ways to keep a guy interested in you all the time]
#17 Relationships last longer with shy girls because you and the guy you like would take more time to get to know each other, which can build a stronger bond.
#18 Getting to know a shy girl better always makes a guy feel special because he’ll be one of those few people who actually knows her well.
#19 Shy girls make guys feel more romantic. Shy girls bring out the manliest of a man’s side. A guy will do anything he possibly can to keep a shy girl feeling happy. And he’ll constantly try to look for cute ways to make you laugh or give him that romantic blush.
#20 A shy girl speaks less which makes a guy focus more on her facial expressions and body language. And by doing that, he’ll find her more attractive because he’ll focus more on the finer details that make her more unique and beautiful. After all, don’t subtle expressions and cute gestures make someone more memorable and cute?
Things a shy girl can do to appear more attractive
Just being a shy girl itself can do wonders for your love life. But if you want to use your shy side as an advantage and appear even more desirable, use these subtle and yet obvious tips.
#1 Don’t change. Don’t try to behave like you’re bold when you’re talking to a guy you like. He already likes you for who you are. You may end up sounding rude or giving mixed signals.
#2 You don’t have to talk. Don’t try to please others constantly by mumbling anything that comes to your mind. At times, it’s better to just play to your strength. Stay quiet and answer when required. You’ll make any guy work harder to impress you. [Read: How to flirt with a guy without flirting]
#3 Confidence. Being shy doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be confident. While having a conversation with a guy about something you’re well aware of, speak confidently while making your point. A sudden burst of confidence always makes a shy girl more attractive.
#4 Learn to say no. If you don’t like something, just say no. You don’t need to explain yourself. It’ll make the guy work harder to please you because he’ll be afraid to offend you.
#5 Try to relax and don’t be aloof. You know the guy is trying to impress you, so help him out without feeling nervous or awkward. Just smile warmly during the conversation and he’ll fall for you in no time. You don’t even have to say too much as long as you smile to reassure him that you’re having a nice time with him.
#6 Dress in a cute way. It’ll accentuate your personality. Having a shy personality may make you appear cute and appealing. But nothing accentuates it better than attire and behavior. Learn to behave in a cute way all the time, and you’ll truly be a cute girl who’s worth taking a bullet for. [Read: 25 ways to look cute and melt a guy’s heart]
#7 Don’t be poker faced. Try to be more expressive in your gestures and facial expressions. It’ll make any guy melt when he’s talking to you. Guys focus more on the facial expressions of the girl while flirting with her. Smile coyly, tuck your hair behind your ear, blush and let him know you’re enjoying the conversation with him.
#8 Ask for help. You may be shy, but now and then, work your courage up to ask a cute guy for some help. Guys love assisting girls they’re interested in. It’s their way of pleasing the girl they like. So give a guy you’re interested in a chance to play the knight in shining armor in your life, and he’ll spend a lot of time thinking about you. [Read: Why guys love a damsel in distress who needs their help]
Times when a guy could get annoyed with a shy girl
# Being shy may be an integral part of your personality, but if you don’t start opening up with a guy even after several interactions or dates, the guy may just end up getting bored because he won’t see any progress in the conversations.
# When you’re always helpless and needy. Guys like helping the girl they like, but there’s a thin line between asking for help and becoming clingy. Don’t overstep that line. [Read: Signs of a clingy girlfriend and how to avoid ever becoming one]
# You don’t speak your mind ever and constantly expect the guy to read what’s going on in your mind.
# You’re a pushover. You never stand up for yourself. Now and then, a guy likes to have a good debate over something both of you are passionate about. If you agree with everything he says all the time, he’ll just assume you have no spine and get bored of you.
Being a shy girl does make things a lot easier in the dating game. So do guys like shy girls? No. Guys love shy girls! Just as long as you remember these tips on what guys like and avoid being needy or timid.