I know about anger. Actually, I’m pretty angry right now. I was rejected a couple days back from a guy I confessed my feelings to. I have a right to be angry *more sad, but there’s definitely some anger mixed in there*. Sometimes it is time to move on, and these are 15 ways to learn how to let go of anger.
How to let go of anger – The healthy ways to do it right
Is it healthy to hold onto anger? I mean, I have a right to feel this way. However, when is it time to let go of this anger and move on? A better question is, how do you let go of this anger? I can’t be angry about this for the rest of my life and if you’re angry, neither can you. So, we’re in the same boat in learning how to let go of anger.
You may become angrier before you get better, but it’s part of the process.
#1 Reflect on why you’re angry. Maybe you had an argument with your partner because they left the milk out on the counter. Is that really the reason why you packed your bags and are staying at your mom’s for a couple of days?
#2 Let it out. I don’t care how you let it out. Write it down, cry in the shower, or scream in your pillow. Sure, they’re cliché methods, but who cares? Do you need some alternative method to release anger? No! You do whatever the hell works for you. So, put on some metal music and give yourself whiplash if you need to.
#3 Talk with someone who isn’t involved. If you want to know how to let go of anger, remember that the best way to process information and/or situations is to talk it out. When I had a fight with my ex-boyfriend, I bitched about it to my friends, and they gave me great insight on my reaction. You’re not always going to be the good guy in a situation and you need to know.
#4 Surround yourself with support. You went through a situation that caused you pain which means you’re going to be emotional. You need some good buddies and supportive family members around you during this time. Someone to listen to you and advise you. Because trust me, when you’re angry, you’re not always rational.
#5 Focus the attention on yourself. I know how easy it is to focus on what happened and find yourself unable to get yourself out of that hole. Focus your attention on yourself. Go out with your friends, take some classes—things that help you relieve your emotions and put you in a positive mindset.
#6 Make the decision to let go. You have to want to let go. If you don’t want to, there’s no rush, maybe you’re not ready yet. So, if you’re angry, be angry. However, at some point, you’re going to get tired and want to move on. That’ll be the moment when you allow yourself to move on.
#7 Don’t suppress it. Many people ignore their emotions and distract themselves. I get it, it’s a lot easier to suppress it than to confront your emotions. In the long-run, it’s not healthy for you and only causes more problems for yourself in the future.
#8 You need to forgive, for you. Forgiving is hard, but you need to do it. You don’t have to forgive that person for them, you need to do it for yourself and your peace of mind. It’s not going to be easy, you’ll probably be an emotional wreck at the time. After, you’ll feel this enormous amount of pressure release off of you. That’s the goal.
#9 It takes time. This isn’t going to blow easily. It may take you weeks, months, or even years to finally get over what happened. However, the longer you harbor the anger inside of you, the longer it takes for you to move on. Be emotional, let it all out. In the end, you walk out a better person.
#10 Don’t take it personally. Maybe your friend said something mean to you when you weren’t expecting it. Don’t take it personally. People react in different ways because of themselves, not because of you. You just happen to be the person receiving the message; however, people are self-interested.