Once a cheater, always a cheater. You’ve heard that phrase, I mean, we’ve all heard that phrase. But honestly, that’s not true. Sure, there are some people who cheat whenever they get the chance, just because they’re horny and the opportunity is there for them to grab. I’ve cheated before. This wasn’t because I was an opportunist, it was because I was unhappy in my relationship. If you’ve cheated, this is how to forgive yourself for cheating.

How to forgive yourself for cheating

Does it feel shitty to cheat? Absolutely, especially when you tell your partner. But listen, it’s okay. I mean, I’m not saying it’s good to cheat because it’s not, but you did it. So, now that it’s done, it’s time to let go of the guilt.

You can’t hold onto this guilt until you die, you need to forgive yourself for cheating. If you don’t, you won’t be able to grow and enter another relationship. I forgave myself and really looked at why I cheated. That way, I knew what I needed to work on.

It’s time to let go. You don’t have to be known as the cheater.

#1 Accept what you did. Okay, so you cheated. It’s not the best thing you can do on a Tuesday, but you did it. Now, you accept what you did.

#2 Don’t deny till you die. If your partner is suspicious, do not pull the “deny till you die” card. I thought you wanted to forgive yourself? Well, you can’t be lying to your partner about it if that’s the case.

You just can’t forgive yourself while playing stupid with your partner. Just admit it. Listen, you cheated, so whatever happens, well, you can’t be too surprised.

#3 Don’t demonize yourself. Again, you cheated, I know. You’re also not a bad person. If that was the case, I would be the devil. Mistakes happen, so you don’t have to take this as something so evil, you cannot live with yourself. Understanding how to forgive yourself for cheating means you let go of the idea that you’re a horrible human being. You’re going to make mistakes, that’s life.

#4 Why did you cheat? Why did you really cheat? You already know the answer, you have it deep inside you, you must accept the truth.

#5 What do you want? Now, what do you really want from your life? Do you want to be with your partner? If that’s the case and you want to be guilt-free, admit what you did, and then see if they’re willing to work it out with you.

#6 Don’t expect your partner to forgive you. Don’t expect anything. I know you probably think by admitting what you did, you’re entitled that your partner forgives you. But they don’t owe you shit.

They don’t have to forgive you, they don’t have to stay in a relationship with you, they don’t have to comfort you while you get emotional. You’re not supposed to admit what you did so you can be excused.

#7 Don’t make excuses for yourself. Oh, I was forced to sleep with her, she grabbed my arm at the bar and dragged me to the bathroom, I was defenseless. Yeah, yeah, and you accidentally fell inside of her as well. Give me a break.

#8 Acknowledge the pointlessness of your excuses. Excuses don’t actually help you. Sure, you have a reason why you cheated, probably a shitty reason, but all it does is cover you up until you cheat again. You need to acknowledge the fact that your excuses are just bullshit and if you want to forgive yourself, cut the crap.

#9 No more self-punishment. Self-punishment doesn’t mean that you stop cheating. If you ate a doughnut and punish yourself by not eating the next day, you’re not doing anything. If anything, you make yourself even more hungry. Are you getting where I’m going with this?

You preventing yourself from masturbating the day after you cheat doesn’t mean anything. You actually avoid the root problem of your need to cheat.

 

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