Some people have a lot of fun on Tinder. Even though it has a reputation of being a hookup app, there are a lot of people on it who are looking for real relationships. But how is it that some people get a lot of dates, while others hear crickets?
Believe it or not, it’s not always about how you look. Sure, I’m not going to lie. Tinder is very superficial because you have to swipe right or left depending on how someone looks. But good Tinder bios are very important to the dating process too.
If you want to get a date – or many dates – on Tinder, you have to know how to write good Tinder bios. It’s not that difficult, but you do need to know some specific things in order to be successful dating on Tinder.
The right photos for good Tinder bios
I’m always amazed at how many people simply don’t put any thought into their photos. I mean, come on people, you’re supposed to be putting your best self out there so you can snag a date! Why would you put some less-than-flattering photos out there? I never really understood why.
But hey, it’s okay. There’s always room for improvement. So here are some tips for the right photos to use for good Tinder bios.
#1 Use good, clear photos. You don’t want to put up fuzzy, unclear, photos. I mean, when you look at pictures of someone, you don’t want to have to squint your eyes and wonder what the person would look like if it was a better quality photo, right? Enough said.
#2 Have as many photos as possible. As I said before, Tinder is a bit superficial. Okay, it can be a lot superficial. That’s another way of saying that people want to see what you look like!
And here’s the kicker – a lot of people look waaaayyyyyy different in all of their photos. I don’t know why. So, put up as many pictures as you can in order for the people to get a real, accurate vision of what you really look like.
#3 Use current photos. Ummm, this should be obvious. But trust me… it’s not! I can’t tell you how many friends of mine have showed me their online dating profiles and I had to do a double-take when I saw their pictures. They were at least 10 years old! And they really didn’t look like that anymore.
Let me ask you this. If you meet someone in person, wouldn’t you rather have them think, “Wow, they look even better than their photos!” rather than, “Omg where is the door so I can get the heck outta here!” Yeah, the first one is better.
#4 Use a current full-body photo. Again… people are superficial. Especially the ones on Tinder who only want to hook up. Unfortunately, they really do care about what your body looks like. I know they shouldn’t, but let’s face it, they do.
So even if you’re self-conscious about your body, still include some full-body shots. It’s better to have someone pass you by and swipe left than it is to meet them in person and want to head for the hills.
#5 Smile and look friendly. This is another one that boggles my mind. There are so many people who look mean, unhappy, depressed, or just downright unfriendly in their photos. Online dating is scary enough, so you don’t want to add to people’s fears by having them thinking you might be a serial killer. Look like you’re a nice person! Smile… it’s not too hard.
#6 Don’t pose with too many people. That’s really great that you’re an extrovert and the life of the party. But, really, if you pose with 10 other people, they are going to wonder which one you are. And that takes too much effort and time. So, they might just pass you by. If you really feel the need to pose with a person, make it someone who doesn’t look anything like you.
#7 Keep them classy. Ladies, please don’t wear revealing shirts… if you know what I mean. And don’t pose in your underwear or bikini when you’re taking a mirror selfie. It just screams desperate and “come f*** me.” You don’t want to come across that way.
And guys, don’t pose with your shirt off in your bathroom or put up a picture of your wet underwear showing your goods. Just. Don’t. Do. It.
#8 Don’t use selfies. What?!?! Did I really say “don’t use selfies?” Yes, yes I did. Do you know why? Because even though selfies are the norm in our society today, it screams narcissism. And beyond that, they might think, “Hey, doesn’t this person have a friend who can take their pictures? Lame.”
And if for some reason you absolutely, positively feel the need to include a selfie, for the love of God, please don’t take it in a public bathroom. Yes, yes, that happens. A lot.
Don’t forget that good Tinder bios say something
Unless you truly are just looking for a hookup, then you should say something about yourself! You are a human being with feelings, a job, and a life. So, let your personality shine.
#1 Keep it simple but descriptive. Honestly, you really can’t write a whole lot in good Tinder bios. They just don’t give you that much room. So, keep it simple and to the point. Highlight the important things about yourself like your career, your values, your hobbies, and what you’re looking for.
#2 Be positive. Please, please, please, don’t say anything like “I hate this part” or “I hate talking about myself.” Or “I’m nothing special.” Get my drift? Say positive things about yourself and what you are looking for. Negativity just drives people away, and that’s not a good way to get a date.
#3 Don’t leave it blank. The good Tinder bios don’t leave anything blank. They write something about themselves. If you leave the bio part blank, it looks like you’re lazy. And if you’re too lazy to put your best self out there to GET a date, how lazy will you be when you actually get one… or even land yourself in a relationship? Yeah. You see my point.
#4 Don’t insult anyone. Yes, I know the last person you went out with lied about their weight. Or they were looking for a sugar daddy/mama. I know there are crazy people out there. But that doesn’t mean you should insult them in your bio. Yes, that happens too. Going back to #2… keep it positive.