Manipulative people have a stereotype for being, well, highly manipulative, narcissistic, and sociopathic. But that doesn’t mean that manipulation is a bad thing.
I would say that there’s a scale of manipulation ranging from persuasion to well… evil. But listen, sometimes when someone is prohibiting you from getting something that you want or need, you have to find another way to get it.
So, if you find yourself being Mr. Nice Guy and getting shafted at every corner you turn, it’s time to play the game smartly. I’m going to show you some techniques, however, you need to remember that manipulation only works when they don’t see themselves being manipulated. If they catch you, it’s too late.
Proven strategies for how to manipulate people
It’s normal to feel bad when you are manipulating someone. But sometimes, you just have no other choice. If you feel like you’re getting walked all over and taken advantage of by someone, then it is useful to know how to manipulate people. So, here are some strategies for you.
#1 Work with their emotions. The easiest way to manipulate people is with their emotions. You’ve seen it on TV and in the movies, and it works like a charm. You want to guide them into feeling a specific way… a way that benefits you. This is emotional manipulation, I mean, if you’re cringing at it, I get it.
#2 Own your emotions. Before you can manipulate anyone, you’re going to have to master your own emotions. If you’re not in control of yourself, you’re making yourself a target of your own game.
You have to laugh when necessary, shed a tear when needed – in other words, you need to put on an act. Depending on the emotion you want them to feel, you’re going to need to be able to use your emotions on demand, too.
#3 Be trusting. People who’ve been manipulated before are usually pretty receptive to the signs, so if you think that trust may be an issue, you’re going to have to make them trust you.
#4 Be likeable. Listen, none of this will work if they don’t like you. Whether you’re a good person or not is irrelevant. Your goal is to make them like you. So, if you’re a negative person, put those true feelings aside and bring out that smile of yours. Don’t kiss their asses, because they’ll notice. But if you act kind, then you’ll slide right by.
#5 Learn body language. If you want to know how to manipulate people well, you’ll have to be able to read people’s body language. Most of people’s self-expression comes through nonverbal communication. People may say “yes” or “no,” but it’s your job to read them and see if that’s what they really mean. It’s all in the body.
#6 Guilty approach. This is one of the oldest yet easiest ways to manipulate someone. The good ol’ guilty approach. Your mom probably did that to you 1,000 times when she wanted you to do something.
When you make someone feel guilty about something, they’ll try to make up for it. That’s when you suggest to them the way that they can compensate. This works best with people who are prone to feeling guilty.
#7 Play victim. I personally can’t stand people who play victim, but, it works sometimes. If you’re going to play this card, you can’t use it all the time. People get tired of victims after a while. But if you’re going to use the victim card, match it with the guilty approach for the best results.
#8 Use what you got. If you have a pretty face or a banging body, use it to your advantage. I know it’s shitty to hear, but it’s definitely the easiest way to get someone to do something.
People are shallow, so you may as well ride that train if it gets you what you want. Plus, sooner or later, your looks will fade, and then you won’t be able to use this method.
#9 Bring out the bribe. You’re probably wondering if people even use bribes anymore, well, let me tell you, they do. If you want to make someone do what you want, bribe them.
#10 Be flirty. S*x sells, people. So, what you should do is bring out your charm and flirtatious side. Blending both charm and flirtation makes the person feel good. This usually works on people who are lonely and have low self-esteem. I mean, it sounds horrible… because it is. But I have the feeling that you’re not too concerned.