But don’t worry! We are all unique creatures with something beautiful to offer the world – including a guy. We all go through times when we get down on ourselves for not being in a relationship, but don’t do that. Pick yourself up, get over your pity party, and learn how to attract a guy!
And I don’t just mean ANY guy. You don’t want that. You want the RIGHT guy.
So, read on for my tips about how to attract a guy.
How to attract a guy – 17 no-fail tips
Many women think that they have to be skinny, beautiful, smart, and have a winning personality to get a guy to like them. That is not true! Our society beats down our self-esteem sometimes and makes us think that we are not worthy. That is bull!
Finding the right man is not that difficult. So, if you want to know how to attract a guy, here are 17 tips that make all the difference.
#1 Be self-confident. Confidence is s*xy. Trust me, I have been told by many guys that this is the most attractive quality in a woman. In fact, they would much rather be with an average-looking confident woman than a super model who feels badly about herself.
#2 Don’t be needy. If you’re confident, then you won’t be needy, right? People turn needy when they don’t think they’re good enough, and so as a result, they want attention. They want people to tell them how great they are, and so they practically beg for it. But don’t do that because it’s a total turn off to guys *and girls too*. Needy people annoy almost everyone, so rise above it.
#3 Don’t chase him. If you have high self-esteem, you won’t be needy. And if you’re not needy, then you won’t chase him. Let’s face it ladies, men are hard-wired to chase US. They are hunters.
#4 Have a sense of humor. No, this doesn’t mean that you have to be the next Ellen DeGeneres or Amy Schumer. But it does mean that you shouldn’t take life – or yourself – so seriously.
#5 Be interesting. In other words, stay away from gossip and read a book once in a while instead. And I’m not talking about a trashy S&M book like Fifty Shades of Grey, I’m talking about learning something. Most people like a good conversation. And if you are only talking about the latest episode of The Bachelor or that your friend’s boyfriend cheated on her, well, he’s going to get bored with you.
#6 Be happy. Wouldn’t you rather be around a happy person instead of a Debbie Downer? Of course, you would! Happy people are infectious. People are drawn to them because they make others feel good. No one wants to hang out with someone who always complains and is an energy vampire.
#7 Be kind. Do you really think a guy would want to date a someone from the movie Mean Girls? Maybe some would. But generally speaking, people like nice people. And that means guys too! Just because a girl is hot doesn’t mean that she can hold a guy’s interest if she’s a bitch. At least not long term.
#8 Be empathetic. This is still in the kindness category. When people are kind, they can identify with other people’s experiences and feelings. When someone can say, “I understand what you’re going through,” it makes us feel better. And guys are no different. They like girls who can express empathy to others.
#9 Be independent. While some guys like to take care of their girls, there is a difference between wanting to take care of them and needing to take care of them. Have your own career, your own friends, your own money, and you own… life! You should want a man, not need a man. Remember… needy isn’t attractive.
#10 Have affectionate body language. Some people have “resting bitch face” or some other body language that says, “don’t come near me.” Well, if you look and act that way, then the guys won’t come near you. So, try to be aware of what message you are sending nonverbally.