Have you been trying to meet the one for a while?
It may have seemed breezy at first.
But as the weeks turn to months and *gasp* years, your little heart may start to panic and wonder why you’re not able to find a good mate.
Am I not good enough?
Am I such a loser?
Why am I single?
Why can’t I get anyone to love me?
Still your beating heart and relax. If you really do want to lose the single status and figure out how to meet the one, you need to give it a thought with a cool head.
How to meet the one
Understanding the real idea behind knowing how to meet the one is tricky business, and it’s got more to do with coincidences and the chance hope of fate than perseverance.
The more you try to find the one, the more desperate you’d start to feel.
And even if you do start to like the first person that asks you out, is that person really the one for you or are you just settling for something less than good?
Don’t go chasing after love. Look for love, and wait for it to step up in front of you.
But then again, look for love in the right places.
If you’re wondering how to meet the one and change your relationship status, here are ten things you need to ask yourself or change about yourself to tilt the odds in your favor.
#1 Are you meeting new people?
When was the last time you met or got introduced to a hottie who seemed rather nice? Was it a long time ago?
If you’re looking high and low for love, start your search by meeting new people. You can’t expect every single person of the opposite sex you meet to fall madly in love with you. If you want to keep your options open and your fingers crossed, you have to be prepared to meet at least one new person of the opposite sex every week. You don’t need to exchange numbers too, what’s facebook for anyways? It’s easy, safe and never desperate to just friend each other for starters.
#2 Look in the right places
You may wonder about how to meet the one, and you may even have a nervous breakdown trying to meet one new single every week. But are you really looking in all the right places?
If you want to find a big diamond for free, what are your chances of getting it from a swanky store? Zero. But perhaps, if you sneaked around in a diamond mine, your odds may seem more reasonable. Well, it’s only a hypothetical example, of course.
You may see a lot of couples in restaurants or while you’re out clubbing. Everyone seems to have a perfect partner. It sucks. And you want one too.
You can try to pick up or get picked up when you’re at these places, and if luck’s in your favor, something good may come out of it. But really, can there be hope for true love in a *pick up* joint? There are a lot of other places to find that elusive partner too.
What kind of a lover are you looking for? There are hundreds of groups and communities in your own city where people meet to interact and have fun, ranging from dancing classes to book clubs and all the way to camping, trekking and even cookery. Join a few clubs that interest you, for starters. If you find the potential lacking, drop out of the club and join another one. What have you got to lose, you enjoy a fun activity and get to make new friends and meet dating potentials too!
#3 Have the right expectations
Now who is your dream date? A celebrity? Of course. While it’s never bad to want a mate who’s a perfect ten in bed with you, it’s not always easy.
As you’re reading this, there’s a good chance that someone in your own neighborhood is making a move on someone attractive. Life doesn’t wait for anyone. And neither does love. People are falling in and out of love all the time.
You may want a perfect ten, but be willing to settle for a nine or an eight, if the compatibility and the attraction is intense. You may run after a perfect ten all your life and that hot person may be too occupied in their own love life or may not even realize you exist anyways. Don’t be shallow when you’re trying to meet the one. Instead, keep your options open. [Read: How to date a friend]
#4 Are you really as hot as you think you are?
This one is a low blow, but it’s better to face reality than build castles and mansions in the clouds. You may pursue or try to win the attention of the most attractive and charming person in the room. But are you really good enough to win their attention? Are you better than every single person around you who’s pursuing the same hottie? You may think you’re all that, but what are the odds that you’re the only one who thinks that way. It’s like that wannabe on Idol who thinks she’s gorgeous and ridiculously talented. Psst… are you that ridiculous person?
P.S. Don’t get your hopes down now. You may not be hot stuff now, but if you really want to, you can mould yourself to become the most attractive and charming person in any room if you’re ready to change for the better.
#5 Make the right friends when you’re looking around
You may boast of a thousand friends on facebook and a phone book full of numbers. But are they really helping you? Some friends may not bother about your single status while a few others may constantly try to fix you a date (horror date, more likely).
Your friends may mean well, but you have to know that you’re the one who has to meet the one and find the one who’s right for you. You need to keep your eyes peeled and you have to get the opportunity to meet new dating potentials.
You may have a few close friends whom you meet all the time, but they can’t help you here. Do your friends meet often and bring other new friends too? They’re the ones you need to meet more often. At least when you’re trying to meet the one, hang out with new friends now and then and meet more people. Remember the law of averages, if you meet more people, your odds of finding someone who’s perfect for you will increase too. Get introduced and be your charming best. There are better chances of meeting the one through an introduction than a pick up line.
Meeting the one
If you want to know how to meet the one, you need to remember that you have more of a chance meeting the love of your life by coincidence than by joining a dating club or going to parties. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t look around.
Learn to knock on doors and open more pathways for yourself. You don’t need to change your life to get a date, just have more fun and meet new people.