Winning a girl’s heart takes effort.
It isn’t about saying what’s on your mind to the girl you like.
In fact, it’s the other way around.
The art of winning a girl’s heart is all about making the girl you like fall in love with you without telling her that you like her in the first place.
You need to get to know her better, and then, you need to make her see you as a dating potential.
If you don’t know her yet, make sure you get her attention the right way.
[Read: 12 ways to get any girl’s attention no matter where you are]
And once you do get her attention, all you need to do is talk and charm your way into her heart.
How to win a girl’s heart effortlessly
Most guys make the genuine mistake of playing the game of winning hearts with their heart.
Of course, when you’re in love with a girl, you can’t do anything but think with your heart.
But if you really want to win a girl’s heart, you need to learn to still your heart, and play the game of hearts with your mind.
Don’t let your emotions control the things you do and the way you express yourself, especially when she doesn’t like you back yet.
You may end up portraying yourself like a clingy or creepy guy who’s desperately trying to win her attention. [Read: 10 types of creepy guys all girls avoid]
Instead of trying hard to make her like you, just try to make her enjoy being with you.
Before you know it, she’ll be addicted to talking to you and spending time with you.
9 steps to win the heart of a girl you like
Ever wondered why some guys are such charmers? They seem to win the affection of all the girls all the time. You can be that guy too, as long as you understand what it takes to win a girl’s heart. [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]
Use these 9 steps on how to win a girl’s heart, and you’ll surely be on your way to impressing the girl you like effortlessly.
#1 Be a great guy. Let’s face it, if you want to date a great girl who’s desired by several guys, you need to be a great guy too.
Here’s a great test to find out if you’re in the big league of guys. When you walk into a room full of guys, do you feel like you’re the coolest cat in the room? Or do you look at a few other guys in awe because they seem so much more awesome?
If you think another guy is cooler, or if you admire a few qualities about another guy you meet, it only means you’re lacking that quality yourself in comparison with that guy. Each time you see a guy who seems *cooler* than you, work on that particular trait so you can get better at it over time. It’s the safest way to improve your own personality in the direction you really want. [Read: 15 traits girls look for in a guy to fall for him]
#2 Talk to her. Make her feel special when she’s around you. It doesn’t matter if there are several other guys who are trying to get her attention. All that matters is what you’re doing to win her heart. Talk to her warmly when you bump into her, and let her know that you’re happy to see her. [Read: What to say to a girl you like to make her like you]
#3 Flirt with her. Flirting with a girl whose heart you’re trying to win is a subtle art. You can either make it obvious that you’re flirting with her, or you can be discreet and subtle. Flirt with her discreetly to begin with, and if she reciprocates by flirting back, you can start to get more obvious.
If you want to flirt with her, try to get some alone time with her whenever you can, and avoid flirting with her when there are others around. Flirting with her when her friends are around will make your flirty lines seem like a joke. Save the compliments and the smooth talking for private conversations. [Read: How to flirt with a girl the friend way]
#4 Don’t be clouded by emotions. You know you like her, but she doesn’t know it yet. If you feel like your chances are slipping or there’s no reciprocation from her end, don’t get reckless. Most guys think with their heart and end up professing their love for a girl when she’s just not interested in dating them. Don’t be that guy. Just make sure you stay out of the friend zone, and avoid telling her that you like her unless you know she likes you already. [Read: How to avoid the friend zone and make her desire you]
#5 Don’t be threatened by the competition. Always think twice before you say something to her, especially if it’s not something pleasant or if it’s about another guy. If she’s been ignoring your calls, or if she gives all her attention to another guy in the cafeteria, don’t behave like a little brat and sulk in the corner. And most importantly, don’t confront her about it. She doesn’t owe you any explanations. Remember, winning her heart is a challenge, and every now and then, you’ll have to deal with other guys who want to impress her.
#6 Occupy her thoughts at night. The night time is the best time to build the intimacy. Start off by texting her now and then in the evenings, and work your way to calling her at night occasionally. Talk about things that interest her, and over time, she’ll warm up to you and even look forward to talking to you every night. [Read: How to text flirt with a girl and get her interested in you]
If you know another guy who calls this girl often, call her half an hour earlier and try to create an interesting conversation. If she likes talking to you, she’ll probably disconnect the other guy’s call if she’s having a great conversation with you.
#7 Open up to her. The best way to build a bond with the girl you like is by building a secret relationship that no one else knows about. By flirting with her only when it’s just the both of you and by talking to each other late at night, it would be a secret flirty affair only the two of you know about, and that would make the whole relationship so much more exciting and mysterious.
Now take that to the next level. When you’re talking to this girl late at night, tell her a few of your secrets that not many people know about, preferably about your past relationships *both of you will end up talking about sex within a few nights* or a few trivial difficulties you’re having with someone she doesn’t know about *she’ll give you advise on how to deal with that person, and would want an update every night*.
The more she knows about your personal details, the more easily she’ll start talking about her own secrets. And once she starts doing that, she’ll start to feel closer to you, and think about you often too. As long as you avoid talking about something sad or gloomy, she’ll always be excited to stretch the conversation with you. [Read: How to get a girl horny and wet just by sitting next to her]
#8 Win over her friends. If you do know most of her friends, try to be nice to them. This isn’t really necessary, but it can help you score brownie points if she ever does discuss about you with her friends.
So does the girl whose heart you’re trying to win have a best friend? If she does have a best friend, then that’s the girl you need to please. Be nice to her best friend and get friendly with her too. And when her best friend becomes a good friend of yours, *accidentally* slip the word out that you like the girl. As long as you’ve impressed her best friend, she’ll turn into your evangelist and convince the girl you like to start dating you because you’re such an awesome catch!
#9 Get her addicted to you. Unless you know she’s crazy about you already, don’t tell her you’ve fallen for her. Focus on having a good time with her, but at the same time, don’t try too hard to impress her. When you make it obvious that you’re trying to win her heart by buying her flowers or saying something romantic, you kill the mystery. Let her wonder about what you think of her. Compliment her, tell her you miss not having her around, and even tell her that you wish she was with you, but don’t tell her you like her just yet. [Read: 10 ways to build the sexual tension with the girl you like]