Being a couple means taking the time to get to know each other better. It doesn’t have to be a whole lesson plan about the ins and outs of dating so-and-so. You can simply learn from each other as the relationship progresses.
Why is it important?
As time goes on, you’ll discover your partner’s good parts, as well as the bad. You’ll notice the little things that make them happy, and the big things that make them sad. When you start to put all these together, you realize that the person you love is just human—but that’s what makes them so special.
They may have their flaws, but they also have their stellar points. And because you love them, none of it matters—because you only see the person you’ve come to know and love. As time continues, however, you either part ways or grow old together, all while still learning new things every day. Isn’t that the best part about being with someone you love? [Read: 36 random funny questions for flirty guys and girls]
How and when can you ask these things?
You can look through these anytime you like and see if an opportune moment comes up to broach the subject. You can even set a time for you and your partner to go on a date night, specifically designated for asking these questions.
Don’t forget to have fun while you’re doing this. Don’t be disappointed if your partner doesn’t know the answer, because the point of these questions is for you to learn more about one another. Just appreciate the fact that you’re learning even more about your partner.
And remember: exercises and conversations like these are what makes relationships better, because they build connection and intimacy. They also allow you to open up more than you’ve ever opened up in the past.
That is why you should approach this with an open mind and an eager sense of learning about your partner. With this mindset, you will be greatly rewarded with a new understanding of and appreciation for your loved one. [Read: 17 really funny questions to get to know your partner better]
Questions about yourself
These questions are designed to let your partner know about the little things that you’d like them to notice. It can also be about your deepest desires and how you approach things in life.
Remember, this is not a test. That serves no purpose in relationships where you’re supposed to discover the ins and outs of the person you’re with. You just have to ride it out and enjoy every little bit of the person you love, inside and out.
#1 What are my pet peeves?
#2 What can’t I eat? [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility]
#3 What are the tells when I lie?
#4 When shouldn’t you talk to me?
#5 What do I identify as my worst habit?
#6 What do you think is my worst habit?
#7 What am I most proud of?
#8 What am I insecure about?
#9 Why do I like my favorite movie?
#10 What is my fondest memory as a child?
#11 Where do I dream of going?
#12 What are my short-term goals?
#13 What are my long-term goals?
#14 What are the little things that make me happy?
#15 What am I afraid of?
#16 How’s my relationship with my parents?
#17 Who do I consider my closest friend? *other than you, of course?!*
#18 How did my heart break the first time?
#19 What was the moment that made me decide I could trust you?
#20 When do you think I first fell in love with you? [Read: 50 revealing questions to know if someone’s right for you]
Questions about your partner
These questions, on the other hand, are designed to give your partner insight into your way of thinking. It’s easier to ask these questions, so your partner will know how much you want to be involved in their life.
#1 Which friend of yours do I trust the most?
#2 What do I like about you the most?
#3 What drew me to you? [Read: 60 get-to-know-you questions for a new romance]
#4 How’s my relationship with your family?
#5 What do I do that makes you mad?
#6 What do I do to calm you down?
#7 Which of your shirts do I dislike?
#8 Which habit of yours do I want you to change?
#9 How often do I want to hear from you?
#10 When do I need you the most?
#11 When do I need you the least?
#12 When have I ever been a pain in the ass? [Read: 30 dirty would-you-rather questions to ask each other]
#13 What can I do to improve?
#14 What can we do to keep our love alive?
#15 When did you first realize that you loved me?
We recommend that you ask both sets of questions, so you can share with each other, as opposed to just hearing one person’s side. We hope that these questions can give you a better grasp of what it takes to keep your relationship going, as well as the things that you’re doing right.