It can start as a joke, then it can get more common over time, but one thing is for sure: when you meet this kind of man, you will have no idea who he really is.
You will have no idea that he presents himself as someone completely different.
As at the beginning of any violent relationship, you will have the impression that you have finally found the right one.
You will think that at last you can feel safe and loved.
Because that’s what they do, they sneak in and surprise you when you least expect it.
They pretend to be loving and compassionate in order to gain your trust, to make you succumb more easily to fall into their “safe” arms.
After he has caught you as a predator, they can do whatever he wants with you.
There are all kinds of abuse in a relationship, and I wrote about each of them.
Everyone is painful and excruciating, especially when it comes to emotion. But we never really talked about verbal abuse.
Verbal abuse is not widely noticed because it is very similar to narcissism and other personality disorders, but it leaves no evidence on the victim.
There are no bruises, no scars.
You can get out of the house within seconds of being verbally abused or otherwise abused.
You can smile, and no one will have a clue what you just went through.
No one will have a clue that you are having trouble keeping your wits about.
No one sees the sadness in your eyes and the emotional fatigue that completely overwhelmed you.