I’m actually going through this right now. I haven’t felt like this in years. I can’t focus on anything, you should see how long it took me to write this feature! I’m constantly thinking about him, checking my phone for his reply, it’s like I’m going through withdrawals. I need more of him. And that is just one sign of the infatuation symptoms.
Is this love? I don’t think so, at least not yet, but it’s definitely infatuation. I’m completely obsessed and if you’re going through this, then you know exactly what I mean. You may think you’ve fallen in love, and believe me, I want that for you, but don’t jump to conclusions right away.
If this is infatuation, of course, you need to enjoy every moment. Also keep yourself reminded of your emotions. Infatuation leads to love and a relationship, but it can also lead to heartbreak.
The infatuation symptoms: How to tell if it’s love or not
Love and lust is one hell of a drug. If you want to know if you’re headed for heartbreak or the altar, read on.
#1 You can’t focus on anything else. It’s taking you twice as long to finish a simple task, you’re not listening when people talk to you and you find yourself making stupid mistakes.
#2 Everything reminds you of them. That cupcake in the window shop? It reminds you of the shots you two pounded back at the bar. Or the Beyonce song, totally reminds you of the way they smile. Everything has some connection to them even when in reality, there’s no connection. You just want to have them on your mind all day and night.
#3 They’re all you want to talk about. Your friends and family have been patient. However, if they have to listen to another story about this person, they’re going to explode. If they’re all you can talk about, it’s safe to say you’re infatuated. Love isn’t obsession, lust is.
#4 You’re defensive if someone knew them before you. If you know someone that knew your new flame before you did, you’re highly defensive. Maybe this person tells you that your flame is known to be a cheater or liar, but you have their back 100%.
#5 Your friends and family don’t see it. No one can understand why you’re with this person. I’ve been in this situation before. In fact, I was completely infatuated with them. Now, I get why my friends and family were confused, we were not a match. But at the time, this guy was my life. Your friends and family know you very well, and they can see a true connection a mile away.
#6 You change what you want to match them. You used to want to have kids and a beach house, but, they don’t want children and prefer apartment living.
Well, suddenly, you don’t mind not having kids and you could do apartment living, why not? Nooo! This is not what it’s about, people. If you’re willing to scrap all your dreams for this person, it’s not love.
#7 You just met. You’re trying not to tell them you love them even though you just met them ten minutes ago. Listen, you don’t love them, at least not now. In reality, you just want to have sex with them. So, have sex with them, spend time together, and wait a bit to see how you feel then.
#8 You’re willing to change core values. All of a sudden, your core beliefs are going out the window for this person. Maybe you’re a vegetarian and they’re not. Well, now, you’re buying a giant steak for dinner. If this was love, you wouldn’t feel like you should change.
#9 You put them on a pedestal. They’re literally the smartest, best looking, funniest person you’ve ever met. You feel that in some ways you’re less than them, that you don’t know what they’re doing with you. But that isn’t how it’s supposed to be. If it’s mutual, they see you both as equals and you should do the same.
#10 This is the best thing that’s ever happened to you. Better than when you graduated from college or landed your first promotion, it’s the best thing since chocolate. Listen, it’s not the best thing that’ll ever happen to you. Loving someone isn’t supposed to be the highlight of your life, though, it feels amazing, the journey through life is what matters.