I am a hardcore introvert. I love staying in all the time and being cuddled up with my favorite blankets while binge watching a new series on Netflix. Introvert problems? Well, it’s my favorite thing to do! However, it’s not always the best when it comes to my social life… or rather, what little I have of a social life.
There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert. If you’re more comfortable only going out with large groups a few times in a month and spending the rest of the time alone at home, that’s just fine. But there are a few things that can become problems if you don’t address them.
The difference between introverts and extroverts
Other than being completely different, what do you really know about the differences between these two types of people? Yes, introverts prefer to be alone or with the company of their significant other only. But that’s not to say that we don’t enjoy going out every now and then.
Here are some introvert problems and how to overcome them
Some may say there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert, and I agree with those people. However, we can’t deny that there are problems some introverts face that are pretty difficult to overcome if they’re not taken care of early on.
#1 Your friends think you don’t like them. This is a big problem that many introverts have – especially if all their friends are extroverts. When you have to be alone a lot and turn down invites to hang out, your friends may thing you don’t like them.
One way to remedy this issue is to just explain it to your friends when you decline the invite. Saying something like, “Sorry! I’ve been really exhausted from being out with people and just need some me-time,” should be enough to help them understand, but this is one of those big introvert problems.
#2 Not being able to go away with friends for the weekend. This is a really difficult thing to deal with for a lot of reasons. First, you really want to go away and have that awesome weekend – or even week – with other people. The problem is that it’s too much for you.
If you want to fix this, you can still schedule a weekend with friends, just put some time aside for yourself every single day to get a mini-recharge.
#3 People think you’re rude for not participating. Many people will think introverts are rude simply because we don’t always participate and put ourselves out there with a ton of people. The best way to overcome this is to just be polite and try to make small talk with everyone, even if you’re not participating in the big event.
#4 Feeling left out of your friend group. I have this problem a lot. My friends are mostly extroverts who love being together all the time, and I feel left out quite often. What I do to overcome this is to communicate with them more over text or snapchat so I still feel like we have a friendship connection, even if it’s not in person.
#5 Not ever wanting people to stay over. It’s a love-hate relationship with wanting people to stay over, and then not wanting them to at all. On the one hand, having people in your home is easier since it’s your own environment.
On the other hand, it’s difficult because it’s like they’re invading your space and you have no alone time. There really isn’t a quick fix for this. It’s more about balancing your alone time with people over at your place.
#6 People no longer inviting you to anything. This happens a lot with introverts because we have a tendency to turn down a lot of invitations to group events. This is a struggle because we feel forgotten about and even disliked.
The best thing you can do is whenever you find out about something you didn’t get invited to, talk to the person and just tell them to invite you next time – even if you can’t always go, it’s not because you don’t want to.
#7 People always assuming you’re upset. Introverts shy away from groups after a while and sit by themselves. This can make people think they’re upset, or even mad about something. It can be annoying because then people are always asking us what’s wrong.
In order to overcome this introvert problem, try to stay closer to the group. You can check out mentally, but remain in the group so people don’t think you’re just angry.
#8 Your phone ringing. This is one of the biggest introvert problems, basically. Why? Because when we talk to people, we have to mentally prepare ourselves first. We can’t just pick up the phone and not know what’ll be on the other end.
To fix this, just avoid answering the phone unless you know who’s calling. That’s really all there is to it. Text the person who called so you can give them a hint that texting is your preferred method of communication.
#9 One night out on the weekend ruins the whole weekend. Introverts really only have one night a week they can get crazy. That’s because after one night of socializing, they’re exhausted for a couple of days. Which means one night out basically guarantees them to be napping the rest of the weekend.
In order to overcome this introvert problem, try not to spend as long out. Make it only for a few hours so you have more time to recharge if you plan on going out again that weekend.
#10 People always telling you to be more social. Introverts everywhere are rolling their eyes at this one. It’s the most annoying thing about being an introvert because everyone is telling you to socialize more. To overcome this, just ignore people. Clearly, they don’t understand and don’t care to.