Happy wife, happy life, right? So, what if you can’t seem to make your wife happy? Women are temperamental, emotional, and sometimes downright nasty creatures. However, once you are in love, they provide you with a fullness that you hadn’t ever known existed. If you can’t seem to get into her good graces lately, take heart. That can leave many men wondering how to be a better husband.
When you are dating or first married, it probably seemed like you couldn’t do anything wrong, but now everything you do is wrong. A little bit of stress, a lot of becoming accustomed to one another, and even more responsibilities on your plate, it is probably not uncommon to come home to “the look.” You know the look; sometimes you can actually feel it when you walk in the front door.
How to be a better husband
If you want to know how to be a better husband, it’s not that difficult. Pretty predictable creatures, what women want isn’t a diamond ring, a fairytale romance, or a guy who has millions in the bank *well at least not all of us*.
#1 Kiss her every morning. A small and simple gesture, if you get into the habit of kissing her in the morning and before you go to bed, it will mean the world to her.
Whatever she might be harboring inside will instantly melt when she feels your lips touch hers. A kiss will make her heart soar and tell her that there isn’t a person alive that you would rather wake up or lay down next to.
#2 Have heavy shoulders. There are going to be times when she lashes out at you for absolutely no reason at all. If you overreact and meet her with similar behavior, it will probably end in a mountain that could have just been a mole hill. If she is having a bad day and taking it out on you, just ask her what the real problem is.
#3 Be protective. For evolutionary reasons, men are the hunters, and women are the gatherers and homemakers. A woman needs to feel like she is being protected. That isn’t just about having the bat by your side if someone breaks in, in the middle of the night.
It involves protecting her from hurt and emotional pain. One really important aspect for learning how to be a better husband is to banter with your friends at times about how she can be a bitch, but always respect and protect her above all else.
#4 Take something off her plate. Whether she works outside the house or not, the majority of the household chores are probably her responsibility. The reason she might be in a bad mood is that she is way overworked and stressed out.
If you can take something off her plate, it will make a big difference to her and tell her that you love and care for her. Something as small as vacuuming can be the best foreplay there ever was. Speaking of foreplay…
#5 Tend to her s*xual needs. It is easy to get into the habit of the big bang, especially when you have tight schedules or the potential for a baby to walk through the door at any minute. If you want to know how to be a better husband, you have to tend to her s*xual desires and sometimes do things that are just for her.
#6 Remember the important things. To guys, an anniversary or a birthday may just be another day. But, to a woman, those dates are important things. Women like to be fussed over once in a while. When you don’t acknowledge a special day, that gives her the impression that you don’t care enough to remember.
#7 Say thank you. Sure, she does the laundry every day and picks your socks up off the floor. But, news flash, she doesn’t enjoy it, and it isn’t mandatory for her. When you do chores around the house for long enough, it just becomes something that people expect from you, and you are no longer appreciated.
Make sure that she knows how grateful you are that she takes care of your needs, without being asked… just because she loves you.
#8 Tell her you love her. Men aren’t always the most verbal creatures. Everyone speaks a different language of love. For some, doing things shows love. For others, buying gifts shows love. Most women need to hear “I love you” verbally. Don’t just assume she knows; tell her so.
#9 Send or leave her notes. There is nothing that will brighten someone’s day more than to get little love messages from her husband. If you see something that reminds you of her, take a picture and send it with a caption. The key is to let her know that you are thinking of her throughout the day and that she is forever on your mind.
#10 Take her out frequently. When you become a couple, a lot of things change. It suddenly becomes much more comfortable and inexpensive to sit on the couch and watch a movie. Every woman wants to be wined and dined whether she is married or not.