Not that I am a Jonas fan, but that Nick Jonas song about jealousy always makes me smirk. When he talks about “puffing up his chest,” I get it. We have all seen a guy go all puffy. That is only one way for how to tell when a guy is jealous. But there are signs and clues you might be missing that your guy feels insecure about your feelings.
Jealousy is that little green-eyed monster that makes us do things we normally wouldn’t. But, it doesn’t always come across predictably, especially with men.
How to tell when a guy is jealous – 15 signs that scream “I am jealous”
Often, guys are not completely in touch with their own feelings. Not really knowing how they feel themselves, their behaviors come across as odd. Sending you mixed signals.
Like a guy punching your arm on recess to show he likes you, sometimes his jealousy doesn’t look much like being jealous. These are some behaviors that send you questioning his love for you, but they say “I love you.” Confused? Men are very confusing creatures.
#1 He won’t talk to you or ignores you. If he is jealous you’d think he’d try to sweet talk or charm you. But, that isn’t always the case. A threatened or insecure guy might try to manipulate you by playing hard to get or by getting your attention by giving you the silent treatment.
#2 He is overly sweet and charming. If your avoidant and non-affectionate guy suddenly can’t keep his hands off you and sweet talk you enough, then he could be afraid to lose you.
Either he sees something in a secret admirer you don’t, or he realizes he can’t take you for granted. The turning on the charm tactic makes you fall head over heels in love with him again.
#3 He suddenly stops texting. Another form of letting you know he isn’t exactly happy with you is to just turn you off by not texting. If your major form of communication is via cell phone and he acts MIA, then he might be trying to send you a very subtle message. He doesn’t like the way you’ve carried on or he’s afraid of your attraction to someone besides him.
#4 He acts all tough when he really isn’t a tough guy. That whole “puff” out your chest thing comes out in him. Like a cock ready for a cockfight, he walks around looking at guys in the room like “you want a piece of me?” when he really isn’t equipped with the kind of toughness to give anyone a piece of him *unless he doesn’t want it returned*.
If your meek man suddenly behaves right out of the World Fighting Federation, it is definitely safe to assume he feels threatened.
#5 He is trying to one-up and show off. If he throws cash around the bar, offering a drink to everyone, or insisting on paying the tab, then he feels threatened by another guy. Guys think money or “titles” gives them power.
A list of accomplishments, a show of what he knows, or pretending to have an endless bank account, are all ways that signal he is jealous.
#6 He flirts with someone else, which is not his style. It might seem like he is interested in someone else when he is trying to make you as jealous as he feels.
If he flirts with another girl or acts charming, then don’t be afraid that he’s moving on. He may just be trying to show you what you’d miss if you didn’t choose him.
#7 He is uncharacteristically blowing up your phone. If he acts all jealous and tries to get your attention all the time and that isn’t his style, then he worries if he doesn’t, someone else will. Not giving you a moment’s peace, he tries to stay in the forefront of your mind.
#8 He makes excuses to stop by. Constantly forgetting something or needing to pick things up, if he suddenly has a magnet to your home day and night, then he might be worried you are cheating.
Like playing Magnum, P.I., he keeps tabs on your house and your whereabouts to make sure no one takes his spot.
#9 He starts spying on you, your phone, and your social media. Not just stopping by your house, watching your social media sites, or stalking what you do while he is not around, indicates he thinks you step out on him.
#10 He just leaves you somewhere. If you’re out with him and you turn around, and he suddenly left you there without a word, rethink how you treated him. Or consider if you treated some other man with some TLC. Sometimes a guy gets pissed and just walks off without a word to wake you up to how you made him feel.
#11 He gets cold and aloof and refuses to engage when out. If he begins to pout like a two-year-old when you are out for the night and can’t be brought out of his mood, he might just be trying to ruin your time because he fears something or someone might be more fun than him.
Don’t foster it by continuing to give in to his immature behavior. If you aren’t flirting or doing anything wrong, let him sit and sulk! Eventually, he’ll get over it. If you let in, you let in forever.
#12 He wants to leave like RIGHT now! The music might suck and the venue not fantastic, but if y’all still manage to have a good time and he suddenly insists that it is time to go when you start talking to other people, especially other men. That screams “I am insecure and want to get you out of here before you find something better.”
#13 He wants to end the relationship for no reason at all. Sometimes a guy feels as if he doesn’t deserve you and makes him continually feel on edge. Those feelings of never being good enough leave him pushing you away. A self-fulfilling prophecy, he breaks up with you before he gets hurt by you.
#14 Guys night becomes every night. Playing hard to get becomes his M.O. Never wanting to be without you suddenly become never wanting to be with you. It isn’t that he isn’t interested in you, he is afraid you might not be that into him.
Another tactic to prevent himself from being hurt, putting the guys ahead of you feels like he doesn’t like you anymore. It might be the exact opposite.
#15 When you ask him what is wrong, he says “nothing.” If he acts strangely but won’t say what is wrong, then it is probably because he won’t admit that he is jealous or insecure about losing you.