Texting used to be a way to send brief messages to each other that would hold us off until we could have a conversation in person. But now texting has become one of the most significant forms of communication among millennials, and we use it for everything from making work arrangements to forming budding romantic relationships.
And through the texts that people send, we can draw some conclusions about what’s going on in their minds and what they really want from a relationship.
When it comes to turning a friend into a girlfriend or boyfriend, there are certain texts that a guy will send. If he’s romantically interested in someone, he won’t talk to them the way he talks to the rest of his friends, even over text. There will be clues in their conversations that he’s got more than just friendship on his mind. In most cases, it will be easy enough to tell that he has romantic feelings for that person.
Typically, there are texting patterns we tend to follow when we like someone, such as texting them first, replying to their texts quickly, and editing all our messages so we appear smart and likable to them. If he sends messages like this, there’s a chance he’s harboring some deeper feelings inside.
Keep reading to find out what 21 text messages he’ll send when he’s looking for more than just friendship.
21Text Messages That Ask Lots Of Questions
It’s a promising sign if he’s sending text messages that ask you a lot of different questions! This is simply because asking questions is a way for him to keep the conversation with you flowing, so he obviously likes talking to you.
Also, questions allow him to get to know you better, which is something he’s interested in if he does want more than friendship. If he weren’t as eager to learn more about you and keep talking to you, then perhaps he would simply ask you questions only when he sees you instead of over text! And if he’s not interested, they won’t be deep questions either.
20Or Messages That Bring Up Something Of Interest
If he’s bringing up a lot of things that interest you in his texts, it’s another sign that he might like you more than he likes his other friends. Over text or not, this is classic behavior of someone who’s interested in you.
When we have feelings for people, we tend to find out as much about them as we can. Talking about your interests rather than his when he’s texting you allows him to learn more about you but also encourages you to keep talking to him, because you’re talking about something you’re passionate about. It’s a good move!
19A Good Morning Or Good Night Message
Good morning and good night texts are the sweetest! Just friends usually don’t go to the effort of sending cute little messages when they wake up and just before they go to sleep, so it’s definitely a sign that he wants to be more if that’s when he’s texting you.
Think about it: he thinks about you when he wakes up, and when he goes to sleep. In fact, he’s probably thinking about you many times during the day as well. If you’re talking during these late or early hours, the relationship is probably quite close, even if he hasn’t officially declared his feelings.
18Texts That Use Flirty Emojis
Some texting guides completely swear off using emojis once you reach a certain age, especially when it comes to flirting over text and dating in the digital world. But in our opinion, if he uses lots of flirty emojis with you, it can still be a sign that he’s romantically interested in you.
There are things you can say with an emoji that you just can’t say with words! Besides, emojis are a way to have a bit of fun, which is what flirting is all about. As long as he is able to use words as well, and doesn’t just answer you with a single silencing emoji, we’d say it’s a good sign.
17Really Long Messages (Into Which Went A Lot Of Thought)
Many people believe that if you have something important to say, you shouldn’t say it over text. Instead, you should wait until you see the person face to face, or ring them if it’s really urgent. But we believe that there is still room for long text messages, especially in this day and age where texting is such a significant form of communication.
He might not be able to say what he truly feels to your face or on the phone, because he might feel too nervous or shy, and so sending you long texts allows him to say how he feels. Plus, if he’s just your friend, he’s probably not going to go to the effort of writing you a novel over text, so this one’s a pretty clear sign!
16Messages That Are Sent When He’s With Other People
It could be a sign that he’s interested in more than just friendship if he sends you messages when he’s with his friends or colleagues. This could show that you’re so important to him, and he thinks about you so much, that he’s not actually focused on the present.
On the other hand, if he never responds to you when he’s with others, it could mean that he doesn’t want anyone to see that he’s texting you. He doesn’t have to be glued to his phone when he’s with other people, but unless he’s at work or in the middle of something important, most people check their phones every now and then, even in the company of others.
15Sometimes, Messages Sent When He’s Having A Good Time
When a person is out having a really good time and has had a few drinks, they’re going to be much more inclined to tell the truth. You know what they say about sober hearts! If he texts you when he’s out having a good time, it could show that you’re on his mind much more often than you thought and that he’s pretty emotionally invested in his relationship with you.
Put it this way: he definitely wouldn’t be texting you during a time like that if he didn’t care about you at all! As long as he doesn’t only text you when he’s out, it’s a good sign.
14Honest And Straightforward Messages
Text messages that are honest and straightforward from him are a sign that he could like you as more than just a friend. It can take a lot of courage to tell someone the truth and to be honest and straightforward rather than play games.
For example, if he tells you how his day really went (especially if it was truly bad!) rather than just saying it was fine, he’s being honest. If he’s going to the effort of being straight with you, it might show that he really cares about his relationship with you and wants to take it to the next level.
13Text Messages Just To Say Hello
When he texts you just to say hello, you might think there’s nothing more than friendship between you because there’s no real depth to messages like that. Think again! Texting you just to say hello is actually a very good sign because it shows that all he wants to do is talk to you—he doesn’t even care what the conversation is about!
And just wanting to talk to you definitely reflects deeper feelings than just friendship, in our opinion. So if he’s always texting you about nothing, it could mean that he is just looking for an excuse to talk to you.
12The First Text In The Conversation
People often get worked up about who texts first in the dating game, and sometimes, this really can be significant. You don’t want to be the only person texting first because it can show that the relationship is a little one-sided. When he texts you first, it shows that he’s not just talking to you to be polite—he really does want to talk to you.
It doesn’t automatically mean that he’s romantically interested in you if he texts you first, but it’s just something to look out for. Either way, this behavior suggests that he likes talking to you and you are important to him!
11Replies That Come Quickly
In the same way that texting first is a good sign, replying quickly could also show that he’s interested in more than just friendship from you. There’s a chance that he’s waiting for you to message him, and so checks his phone frequently, which is how he’s able to reply so quickly. It could also mean that he loves talking to you since he’s so quick to keep the conversation flowing.
Of course, this isn’t a guaranteed sign that he likes you—it’s polite to reply to people within a reasonable amount of time, so maybe he’s just doing the decent thing!
10Text Messages That Are Funny
Laughter is one of the keys to a good relationship! Many people overlook it, but it’s actually one of the most important aspects of a bond because it helps two people to connect and helps them to have a good time together, which is crucial if they’re going to keep spending time together.
So if he makes you laugh over his texts, and he goes to the effort of trying to be funny to make you laugh, it just might mean that he’s trying to impress you because he’s romantically interested in you. He could just be a generally funny guy, but it’s still a potential sign that he’s got feelings for you.
9Messages When He’s On Vacation
Vacations are a time for leaving your regular life behind and either relaxing, finding new adventures, or spending quality time with you. For many people, they’re also a time for abandoning technology, so don’t worry if he’s not texting you when he’s on vacation. He’s entitled to a break from everything!
But if he is texting you when he’s away, it certainly shows that he cares about you. Why else would he choose to talk to you when he could be doing a number of other things? This could show that he doesn’t need a break from talking to you because he’s interested in you!
8Texts That Include A Nickname
Nicknames can be used between friends, but people also tend to use them when they’re romantically interested in somebody. If he gives you a nickname, especially when he doesn’t typically use them with anyone else, it could be because he likes you and he’s trying to establish a deeper connection with you.
In other words, he wants you two to share something that people on the outside don’t really understand. This doesn’t guarantee that he’s interested, but it could certainly point to that if he calls you a nickname along with doing a few other things on this list!
7A Message That Pries Into Your Love Life
It’s a sign that he may be interested in being more than your friend if he asks you questions about your love life. Of course, friends ask other friends about their dating lives, but if he’s always asking you about it, it could be because he wants to be part of it.
He might be trying to find out what your situation is so he can make his move, or he might even be trying to get a deeper conversation flowing to see if you bring up the fact that you like him. Whether he does this in person or over text doesn’t matter—either way, it’s a strong sign that he’s romantically interested.
6Text Messages That Are Filled With Inside Jokes
If your relationship is full of inside jokes that nobody else really gets, then your text conversations will likely be full of them too. And if that’s the case, it could be because he has feelings for you that extend beyond friendship. We typically establish inside jokes with the people we’re closest to, so this could also be a sign that you’re very good friends.
Again, this is a way for you two to bond and become closer by sharing something that outsiders don’t really understand. An inside joke is exclusive to your relationship, which makes it special and significant.
5Every Now And Then, A Message To Vent
When somebody starts venting to you, it shows that they feel reasonably comfortable in front of you. After all, you don’t vent to people that you don’t like or don’t trust because you don’t want those kinds of people to know your problems—and you don’t really value their advice anyway.
So if he is coming to you with his problems, it could show that he does trust you not to judge him. It could show that he wants your advice because he admires you. It could even be a way of letting you into his world to strengthen your relationship—all signs that his feelings run deeper than friendship.
4Compliment-Filled Text Messages
This one is pretty simple! Compliments are a good sign. If he’s always sending you text messages that are packed with compliments, there’s a chance that he likes you. This is a way to impress you and flatter you, which we tend to do to people we have feelings for.
The odd compliment here and there is probably just him being a good friend, but if he’s always going over the top with telling you how great you are, chances are he genuinely thinks you’re pretty great. And if you complimented him back, you’d probably make his day (and maybe even seal the deal with making things official!).
3Texts That Confirm Plans
When he sends you texts to confirm the plans you have, it shows that those plans are important to him. If you two are catching up for lunch on Saturday, he might text on Friday night to make sure it’s still going ahead. This is a promising sign because if the plans are important to him, then he’s more likely to value your relationship and possibly want more from it.
On the other hand, if he never confirms, he could be low-key hoping that the plans fizzle out. This doesn’t apply to every case—some people just don’t remember to confirm. But it is something to think about!
2Messages That Seem Well Edited
Most of the online texting guides advise against sending messages filled with grammatical errors, especially if you’re texting someone you’re trying to impress. It’s true that we’re more likely to come across in a positive way if we send messages that are coherent and grammatically correct, so if he sends you texts that seem well edited, it could be because he really cares how you perceive him.
That, in turn, could mean that he likes you. Of course, if he’s always grammatically correct, this might not mean anything at all about your relationship. It totally depends on the guy—but hopefully you know him well enough to tell which side he lies on.
1Text Messages That Seem To Be Ongoing Throughout The Day
Sometimes you’re never in the position where one of you has to take the plunge and text first because your messages are just an ongoing conversation. This is actually a great sign if you like him because it might mean that he likes you too! If he follows up all your texts with questions and messages that further the conversation and you end up sending ongoing texts throughout the day, it shows that he likes talking to you.
It also shows that he has a lot to say to you, and these are both signs that he could be interested in you as more than a friend. When all these little clues start appearing simultaneously, there’s a very good chance that he is romantically interested in you!