Relationships can be filled with all your attention, or they make you feel exhausted and bored, leading you to focus your attention on other things. If you are uncertain if you’re still into him, these eight signs show if you are losing interest in your boyfriend.
When you first start dating, you are super excited about them and every little second of their lives. You want to be with each other all the time, and you probably find yourself texting each other or calling to check in whenever you get a free moment.
Going… going… gone – How to tell if you’re losing interest in your boyfriend
The signs below tell you if it’s just your ADD kicking in and causing you to not be so focused on your beau, or if it’s actually your subconscious trying to tell you you’re just over it.
#1 You no longer crave them as much s*xually. If in the beginning of your relationship, you had passionate hook-up sessions and honestly swore to all your friends that he was and is the best s*x you’ve ever had, but now you no longer even care to find out if that is true or not, then it’s safe to say you are definitely not as into him as you were.
#2 You don’t pay attention when they talk. Another way to tell you’re no longer into your relationship is by how you make them feel when you have conversations with each other. For example, if you used to have energy-filled conversations, constantly inquiring about each other’s day, but you no longer really care how his work day went, it’s safe to say you’re losing interest.
If you find yourself daydreaming about other things, and paying more attention to the TV left on in the background when he tells you things about his day, then you aren’t nearly as interested in him as you once were.
#3 You don’t text or check in as often. When you are in a relationship with a guy you really love and care about, especially in the beginning, it’s a sure bet you text and call each other as often as possible. When you’re in a relationship you want to be in, you stay tuned in to each other at all times.
#4 You never want to do anything. If you find yourself always saying no to the things you used to say yes to, it’s a sign you might not be as interested in your relationship. If you no longer care to do things with him—for example, go to the movies, take a road trip, or just go out with some friends—then you are probably stuck in a relationship rut.
#5 You start texting other guys. This huge red flag shows you no longer care for your man. If you find yourself scrolling through your Rolodex, looking for those guys that used to wait in the wings, and text them to see what they are up to.
You no longer seek just your current boyfriend’s attention. If you need attention from other guys, you have, without a doubt, lost interest in your relationship.
#6 You find yourself with a wandering eye. It’s fine to think Brad Pitt or some supermodel is s*xy *from far away*. And it’s okay if you and your boyfriend both know who your celebrity crush is. But that’s as far as it should go. You shouldn’t start pursuing these crushes in real life.
If you find yourself looking at every semi-attractive guy that walks past you, and you really don’t care if your boyfriend knows or not, then it’s safe to say you are not focused on just him. Your curiosity is getting the best of you.
#7 Suddenly, you get annoyed with them easily. Just like your frenemy, whose every little photo or status post annoys you, you develop an irritation toward your relationship. It could be something as simple as eating a sandwich “too loudly.”
If you start screening their calls, and hit “ignore” every time they call you, because you think its annoying, then it’s time for you to have a serious conversation. Ask yourself if you are wasting both your time.
#8 You never want to spoil them. When you love someone and want to be with them, you take care of them. You want to much more than you need to. You find yourself asking what they might want for dinner over what you want, or you find yourself shopping for them instead of looking for yourself.
But if you don’t care enough to take the time to cook them their favorite meal, surprise them with new lingerie, or get them some new shirts, these are all signs of you no longer being as into the relationship as you once were. When you really like someone and want to be with them, you want them to know that—all the time, anytime.