May 2020 is the month of whole-heartedness.
May may be the shortest month, but this year, it’s long on existential questions. At the top of the list: Are your masculine and feminine energies in balance? This month’s stars are here to bring alignment. Venus, which rules the feminine principle, will travel in close tandem with Mars, which rules the masculine force. With the cosmic lovers entwined, we’re all being called to “right-size” strength and submission, providing and receiving, tough love and boundless empathy. Archetypes for this Venus-Mars fusion could be: the peaceful warrior, the divine masculine, the fire that heals.
(Interestingly, May pop culture headlines broke with a “source” confirming to People.com that Olympian and Kardashian patriarch Bruce Jenner’s transition from male to female, and strong hints that his process was being filmed for an E! special.)
Mars and Venus are in watery Pisces until May 19 and 20, respectively. Fantasy-driven Pisces is all about blurred boundaries, getting swept away, and also illusion. For the first three weeks of the month, getting “caught up” in a heated, hormonal attraction—or an emotional spiral—is certainly possible. Some old issues can arise at the beginning of the month, as Venus and delusional Neptune (ruler of Pisces) align on the 1st, and Mars connects with Chiron, the wounded healer, inciting intense emotional outbursts linked to ancient pain. Love could feel a lot like a therapy session—or rehab!—in early May .
A Leo full moon on May 3 brings out more dramatic expression, but hopefully the confessions will be more charitable in nature. This full moon is conjunct expansive and global Jupiter (still retrograde until April 8), so whatever you declare could be a shout heard ’round the world. Unpredictable Uranus, in fellow fire sign Aries, also forms a supportive trine to the full moon and Jupiter. Book your tickets: it could be quite a show.
Fortunately, May 6 brings an eye-opening opposition of Jupiter in theatrical Leo and the Sun in objective Aquarius. While oppositions can pull us in two directions, they can also lend perspective through polarity. Where could your life use more Leo-infused passion? Where do you need to calm the **** down and be rational? This is an especially pressing question with communication planet Mercury retrograde (backward) until May 11.
This cool-headed influence continues with the May 18 new moon, the second in a row to fall in Aquarius. This date also heralds the Chinese zodiac’s Year of the Sheep. Farewell to the fanfare and brazen ego of the in-your-face Horse; enter the weepy Sheepy, whose milder energy can be a lovely dose of compassion, but also passive-aggressive and indirect.
But first, there’s Valentine’s Day, the hallowed playdate of Cupid and Eros. The moon will be in adventurous Sagittarius for most of the day, making us fall in love with freedom—and perhaps feel like wriggling out of rigid evening plans. But wait! Come sunset, the moon will be in traditional Capricorn in most parts of the world. You’ll wish you didn’t give up your table for that chef’s tasting menu or hock your tickets to the champagne ball. Single? Avoid the oppressive judgment of heavy-handed people who want to weigh in on your choices (the types that vintage Sex and the City called “smug marrieds”). This day, too, shall pass.
Besides, the freedom to define love on your own terms will soon reign supreme. On May 20, Venus and Mars meet in Aries, the zodiac’s fierce and self-sanctioning first sign. This is the first of 2020’s THREE exact conjunctions between Venus and Mars, and the action could be hot, hot, hot! Because conquistador Mars is the natural ruler of Aries, the scales will probably tip more in the masculine, aggressive direction. Venus will have to drop her coquettish ways and get real with those affections.
Nonetheless, this month continues to beg the question: can heart-centered affection and raw lust share a metaphorical bed? Can we feel that burning desire for someone who sees us as whole humans, rather than a unattainable conquests that drive up our dopamine levels?
One of our favorite TED talks is by Esther Perel, author of Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. In her lecture, “The secret to long-term desire in a relationship,” Perel points out that this is the first time in history where we’ve expected ONE person to fulfill all our needs—from best friend to scintillating sexual companion to life partner—when often, those needs draw from completely different motivations.
Another inspiring TED talk is”Your brain in love” by Helen Fisher of Chemistry.com. Fisher’s research team took MRIs of people in love, and people who had just been dumped. Their findings were fascinating. (Apparently, love can be like a “cocaine high” that you never come down from.)