He was bombarding you with text messages all day long, calling you just to hear your answering machine, worrying when you didn’t answer… In short, he seemed completely crazy about you. The problem is that for some time now, he has been moving away, seems not to want so much closeness with you … Don’t panic! We explain how to react.
When a man distances himself, it is difficult to know if he is doing it on purpose because he is fed up with us, or for reasons that have nothing to do with us. The truth is that both are possible.
First case: your meeting is recent
He was all on fire three days ago and there he plays dead. Don’t try to make false excuses like “he lost his cell phone”, “he was stolen”, “maybe he had an accident and died?” “.
If he doesn’t answer you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. When a guy wants a woman, he does everything to seduce her and to make her happy. So stop torturing yourself trying to figure out what you did, why he suddenly changed his mind.
Admittedly, it’s hard to hear but if he doesn’t come back to you after a few days, apologizing for his behavior and explaining it, it’s a safe bet that he is establishing some distance for himself. ‘gently eclipse. It’s cowardly, very cowardly, we agree!
Second case: you have been in a relationship for a long time
If you have been in a relationship with this man for a long time, it is very likely that his attitude has absolutely nothing to do with you. If he distances himself, it is to satisfy his natural needs for autonomy and independence.
Indeed, by being too close to you, he has the impression of losing his identity and needs to find himself a little alone.
Likewise, he may have personal concerns (at work, for example). You must be thinking to yourself, “Why isn’t he telling me?” What am I used for in the story? In fact, a man prefers to solve his problems on his own, for the simple reason that he can’t stand appearing weak in front of you.
He is keen to keep his reputation as a strong, manly man you can count on. Basically, when Mr. isolates himself and does not answer your questions, you must understand “I do not know what to say to you at the moment, so give me time to think about it”. Unlike us, men don’t think out loud, and they don’t give up until they have a real answer for us.
So, how to react?
In either case, when a man distances himself, it is important not to run after him by harassing him with text messages to understand the why and how of his behavior.
On the contrary, leave him in his corner, don’t blame him for anything and take care of yourself. Do things that make you feel good and stop thinking about him. He will come back on his own …