The first date is all about getting to know each other.
But a second date is different, and yet similar.
When you meet each other for a second date, both of you know each other already.
But yet, you don’t know about each other’s interests or real lives.
A first date makes the impression.
A second date makes the connection.
How to have a good second date
You may have spent a few hours with each other during the first date.
But in a second date, you need to build the chemistry slowly and at the same time, test your compatibility too.[Read: 5 perfect questions to ask on a date and test your compatibility]
Here are 12 second date tips to help you make a great impression and build the connection at the same time.
#1 Try something new. If you had dinner on a first date, grab lunch and watch a movie on the second date, or go to a game and follow it with dinner.
Try something different and make sure your date would have a good time with you.
A two part date would be a perfect way to take the next step after a first date. It lasts longer and feels different from the first date. [Read: What to do on a date to have a perfect date]
#2 Go together. As with most first dates, you would have met your date mate directly at the venue. But now that both of you know each other, walk into your date together. Either get picked up by your new sweetie or meet up somewhere instead of meeting directly at the venue. And if you’re the guy, don’t be late no matter what. You don’t want your second date to go sour because you kept the girl waiting for more than half an hour.
#3 Find excuses to touch your date. Flirty touches always have a way of bringing two people closer. Build the chemistry with soft brushes and touches. Make your date want to be with you and spend time with you.
Just a word of caution though, don’t overdo your touchy flirting if you find your date cringing instead of purring. [Read: The art of flirting by touch]
#4 Movies are great. Movies are the perfect chemistry builders for a second date. It gives both of you the chance to sit next to each other and feel connected without having to focus on talking. And when both your hands start touching on the armrest, or when skin grazes each other’s now and then, it’s definitely going to make sparks fly too! [Read: Movie date tips for a successful date]
#5 Buy a gift. This is not really necessary, but it’s definitely a nice way to let your date know that you’ve been thinking of them. Pick up something inexpensive and personal, and something that either makes you remember your date or has a personal touch of some sort. If you’re the girl, you could skip this step and wait for the guy you’re dating to buy something nice and memorable for you.
#6 Talk about the first date. Did you fumble over something in the first date? Did you enjoy it? Talk about the first date and all the feelings you associate with it including the mistakes, happy moments and everything else. Talking about the first date would refresh your date’s memory of all the happy moments and rebuild the connection with renewed vigor.
#7 Get those unanswered questions answered. A first date gives you the opportunity to get to know someone. A second date helps you get to know someone a lot better. If you have any doubts or questions from the first date that need any clarifying, ask away.
#8 Don’t have expectations. You may have kissed your date goodnight at the end of the first date. But that’s no excuse to behave like you’re entitled to kiss your date whenever you want. Don’t ever behave like both of you are dating each other already. Take it slow and remember that both of you are still evaluating each other. [Read: How to kiss a guy for the first time and turn him on]
#9 Talk about recent activities. If your date mentioned something about their work or personal life on the first date, bring it up and ask about it. It reveals an interest in your date, and brings both of you closer. And let’s not forget the most important thing, it shows that you listen and take interest in your date’s daily life.
#10 Don’t get too personal. You may be excited to see each other again. And the chemistry may be electrifying too. But don’t ask too many personal questions or talk about your life’s intimate details just yet. You’ve only spent a few hours with each other and you need to learn to take things slow and easy.
#11 Don’t talk about exes. You avoided this conversation in the first date, but a second date should be no different either. Even if you bump into an ex in the middle of a date, try not to go into conversations that revolve around your past life while you’re in the middle of a good date. There’s a time for that talk, but a second date isn’t that time.
#12 End the date truthfully. If you’re going to miss your date after saying goodbye, say “I’ll miss you”. End the date by telling your date exactly how you feel, especially if you really like your date already. Even if you’ve kissed on the first date, step in closer and watch your date’s reciprocation.
If your date doesn’t reciprocate your request to kiss, don’t feel let down by it. As long as your date’s cheerful and happy, it’s all good. There will come a time when you can kiss your date all day long. But today is not that day.
A second date is just as fragile as the first date. Use these second date tips to create a closer connection and build the chemistry between the both of you. And chances are, your date will fall hard for you even before you realize it.