The world would be a nicer place if we could decide how and who to love.
It would be much easier if we could just snap our fingers and kick someone out of our system who is not right for us.
But, unfortunately, things don’t work like that at all, do they?
However, sometimes this is exactly the right thing to do, even when it seems impossible.
Sometimes you have to be strong enough and decide to stop loving someone who is clearly not worthy of you, someone who makes your life miserable.
Sometimes you have to stop waiting for the man who doesn’t want to come back. Stop keeping him a place in life when it is obvious that he does not want it.
I know you keep on hoping that this man you love so deeply will change.
I know that you hold on to the idea that one day he will regain his senses and that things between you will become different.
I hate being the one who bursts your bubble and breaks your heart, but I must tell you that none of this will happen.
No, he will remain the same asshole he has always been, and you will only waste your time if you continue to keep a place in your heart for him.
I don’t want to be cruel, but this guy doesn’t like you in return, and he doesn’t deserve your efforts.
The worst part is that he doesn’t want your love either. He does not respect your feelings, he does not appreciate your sacrifices and he does not cherish your loving heart.
So what more do you need to understand that he is not worthy of you?
What does he have to do for you to finally realize that he will never become the man you want him to be, and that he will never be able to give you the love you need?
What do you need to finally get him out of your heart? So you stop making excuses and justifying them?
I know that all this time you are looking for reasons. You can’t help but wonder why he doesn’t love you the way he should, and why he does everything to chase you away from him.
I know you would like an explanation, a closure to help you move forward.
Is he unable to love in general or is it only you that he cannot love?
Well, dear, it is time that you accept the fact that these are questions that will always go unanswered, just as you must accept that you are waiting for it for nothing.
And after all, even if you knew all these things, it wouldn’t change anything, would it? So why keep bothering you with this?
Instead of torturing your mind, thinking of this man, and wasting your time waiting for him to come to his senses, focus all of your energy on your ultimate goal, which is to get him out of your system.
Which is to stop giving him the love he doesn’t deserve, to stop fighting for him, and to stop giving him the attention to which he is not entitled.
I’m not going to lie to you, it will be anything but easy. That said, it is something that must be done for your own good.
It is time to face the truth and recognize that you are nothing but a Plan B and a safety net for this man.
A girl who will put her life on hold whenever he needs it. A girl who will never be her priority and her first choice.
It is time to leave this road which leads nowhere and to start walking on the way of the future.
It’s time to take charge of your life and choose to love yourself more than you like that asshole.
Most importantly, it is time to choose healing over pain.
Choose to let go, choose the future rather than the past, and happiness rather than grief.
