Wondering what the fuss about promise rings are all about?
Why do lovers even give them?
Promise rings can be confusing to many.
And many young lovers don’t even know why they give each other promise rings.
So is it like an engagement ring, but not really an engagement ring?
Or is it like a proposal to propose later?
Well, you’ll learn everything about it here.
[Read: 10 different ways to say ‘I love you’ without saying a word]
What is a promise ring?
A promise ring is just that, it’s a ring that signifies a promise of some kind.
Almost always, promise rings are exchanged between young lovers to pledge their love for each other.
But promise rings can mean many other things too, like when it’s exchanged between a parent and a child, it could be to abstain from sex.
When you give a promise ring to your lover, it must signify some kind of a promise, like telling your lover that you’ll propose someday, or you’ll give up smoking the day you get married, or that you’ll never cheat for as long as both of you are in a relationship. [Read: How to prove you love someone the right way]
There are a lot of reasons to give a promise ring to a loved one. But it all starts and ends with a promise.
The time I gave a promise ring
When I was still a student in my college years close to a decade ago, I was madly in love with a girl. We had been dating for a couple of years, and even though we spent a lot of time with each other, it just was never enough. I was crazy about her. I even knew I wanted to marry her someday.
All the words in the world couldn’t express the love that I had for her. But I did want her to know that she means a lot to me, a lot more than my words could ever express.
I wasn’t the first one who wanted to express this passionate romance that overflowed within me. For almost as long as humans could think, lovers have always looked for daring or memorable ways to express their love to their sweethearts. After all, when you’re in love with someone, you can’t help but constantly look for ways to make your lover smile. Some passionate lovers wrote poems, others built sculptures, and almost everyone else went to war. [Read: The complete guide to writing a romantic love letter to your partner]
Now I couldn’t do any of those. But I still wanted to express the endless love I have for my girlfriend.
I decided to buy her a beautiful ring, the best one I could afford to buy without losing an arm or a leg. I saved up a month’s allowance and picked up a platinum ring with a tiny diamond on it. And on our second anniversary dating each other, I planned a romantic dinner with candles at my place. To make it more special, I spend a good hour or so jumping high and sticking glow in the dark stars all over my bedroom ceiling. And after that, I filled my room up with hundreds of heart shaped balloons.
I wanted to do more, but beyond the flowers and a few gifts, I couldn’t think of anything more.
After dinner, I walked her into my room with my hands over her eyes and showed her the balloons which signified “the hearts it would take to fill all the love I have for her.” And then, I turned the lights off and showed her the glowing stars all over the ceiling. It did look rather eerily romantic. And just as she turned the light back on, I went down on one knee, took out the ring and gave it to her.
She looked really happy, and was quite shocked to be honest. But before she’d worry about it, I told her it wasn’t an engagement ring, and it was just a ring to prove my love to her and let her know that I’ll always love her. And everything about that night was just perfect. [Read: How to plan a complete marriage proposal in a unique and romantic way]
My girlfriend and I are married today and we share a wonderful relationship, and most importantly, that ring still has a special spot in both of our hearts. I pledged my love for her with that ring, and I’ve still kept that promise.
Understanding the promise ring better
When I gave my girlfriend the ring over a decade ago, I didn’t know what it was called. I had no idea back then that it was called a promise ring. But I still gave it to her because I wanted her to know how special she is and how much I loved her.