It must be said, at present meeting someone is not complicated. Thanks to dating apps and social networks, getting an appointment is the easiest.
But if the meetings are numerous, few are those which are satisfactory. Finding someone serious and sincere is as complex as solving an equation with 2 strangers!
And it is for this reason that when you meet a serious man, you find it hard to believe. As if we were living in a dream … As if the fairy tale from our childhood become reality.
But what do we mean by “serious man”? Well, just a normal, healthy man looking for the same things as you:
There is no longer any reason to doubt what he thinks and says
He is looking for a serious and lasting relationship and he is not afraid to say it.
With a hesitant and running boy, you risk spending days without hearing about him. This type of man only wants one thing: to keep you in his sights without giving you the impression of being in a relationship with you. In fact, in this type of relationship, you never really know what to expect. You never really know what you represent for the other.
But with a serious man, there is no need to doubt your place in his life. If you like it, it will make you understand it and above all, it will not play with your feelings.
You can write to her whenever you want and for any reason
No need to wait for messages. No need to find a valid pretext to write to him. No need to spend hours hanging on your phone waiting for a few words that never come …
Whether you’ve been together for a few weeks or a few months, you have enough confidence in him and your relationship to throw all the basic rules for texting in the trash. You are good together and you are free to write to her whenever you want, without fear of passing for an obsessive girl or an emotional addict.
With him, the 2 messages sent in a row are no longer a problem. He responds quickly and with undisguised pleasure … In short, a real waking dream!
With him, you are free to imagine little by little a future for two
After all, it is quite possible that you will not appear alone at the wedding of your first cousin taking place in less than three months…
Against all expectations, you find yourself thinking of two…
And who knows, if it goes on like this maybe soon you will be the one planning your own wedding. What is certain is that by your side you are confident and the idea of a future for two gradually invites itself into your present, without you feeling crazy imagining it.
It lets you understand that it is here to stay and above all, that you make it happy!
You stopped looking for a plan B
Meetings, you’ve always had them. But never anything serious enough to delete your Meetic or Tinder profile. Nothing serious enough to change your love status on Facebook or to tell your friends that you had someone.
But with him, it’s different. Again, everything was done naturally and gradually. But without realizing it, you have gradually abandoned your profiles on dating applications and are now ready to say that you are in a relationship.
In fact, you no longer want anyone; just hang out with him. You discover the pleasure of pampering your other half and thinking only of him!
He makes plans (and includes you in those)
You’re together, but he’s already planning your next meeting. He talks about the restaurants he wants to take you to and the activities he would like to share with you.
He is attentive. If he knows that you want to go see the next Tarantino, he will invite you as soon as he leaves. If he wishes you to accompany him to his next professional dinner, he will make sure to notify you early enough so that you can free yourself.
And you will feel the difference immediately! The men you dated before were only interested in your Saturday projects on Friday and late at night. But with him, the projects follow each other and are not alike!
He thinks of you first
You gradually become one of the priorities of his life. Unlike the less serious boys you have dated before, going out with friends, professional obligations or hobbies seems less important than the time spent with you.
He is serious and wants to build something with you. He finds time for you, however busy he may be. And he doesn’t do it out of obligation, but out of envy.
He begins to develop feelings for you and better still, he begins to have trouble imagining his life without you!
With him, no need to always do a lot of activities to have fun
During your previous “relationships”, your time was always expertly organized. Your meetings assumed that you were doing an activity (cinema, restaurant, night club outing, naughty night, etc.).
With a serious man, the reality is quite different. You can very well meet up to watch TV together or sit in a park and read side by side.
Your relationship is not about to end and you have plenty of time in the world to plan activities or outings. You learn to just savor each other’s company.
You find yourself no longer analyzing the smallest word or gesture of the man with whom you are
Here, it’s very simple: you trust him! And in fact, you no longer have to be attentive to the least of his words and the least of his gestures. No, you know he is not playing with you and you no longer need to do a thorough investigation to find out.
You are now free to focus on other things, much nicer things. Oddly, you are in a relationship and should have less time for yourself, but it is quite the opposite. You are light and have time to take care of your other half, but also to prepare for your brother’s birthday or to take yoga classes.
You gradually discover the desire to open up to others
When you’ve just met someone, you’re on the reserve and protecting yourself. It is completely healthy and normal. We seek at all costs to avoid situations of imbalance where one is more exposed and therefore finds himself in a “weak position”.
But with someone serious and being sure you want to go a long way with you, it’s different. You gradually discover the pleasure of revealing yourself and confiding in your partner. We want to give him a real chance.
We tell ourselves that all good things assume that we take risks and that with him, it seems to be worth it!
We are gradually starting to believe in love again
When we go on conquests and meetings, without ever being satisfied, we are quickly bored. The womanizers are exhausting … The scheme “we take a few drinks, we spend the night together and then radio silence” is just as exhausting.
Then we come to wonder if we will end up alone. If someday we will meet someone worthwhile. Little by little, we stop believing in true love .
But everything changes from the moment we meet someone who gives us the impression of being wonderful and reminds us that we deserve to be loved.