When your heart breaks, it feels like the pain is never going to go away. It feels like you’re going to be this miserable, this lost, this insecure forever. It feels like you’re never going to feel okay again.
But that feeling is only an illusion.
Eventually, you’re going to snap back to your light-hearted, fun-loving self. If you’re feeling doubtful, all you have to do is look at all of the hardships you’ve endured in the past. This might be the first time you’ve gotten your heart shattered this badly, but it’s not the first time you’ve felt like it was the end of the world. It’s not the first time you’ve experienced sorrow. You’ve been through rough patches in the past, but you’ve gotten through them. You turned out okay.
When your heart breaks, you shouldn’t feel like you’ve done something wrong. You shouldn’t feel like you loved too hard or didn’t love hard enough. Broken hearts happen to everyone. They don’t discriminate.
When your heart breaks, you have to remember it isn’t going to stay broken forever. There’s no telling how long your healing journey is going to last, but you can find comfort in the fact that even if it takes you weeks, months, or years, eventually this heartbreak is going to end. Eventually you are going to find peace within yourself. Eventually you are going to get over your attachment to this person you assumed was going to stay in your world forever.
Sure, a part of you might always miss this person. A part of you might long to reach out to this person. But you’re going to grow used to your life without them. You’re going to become more and more comfortable on your own. You’re going to understand how beneficial it was for you both to part ways, to continue your lives without each other, to see what you could accomplish on your own.
When your heart breaks, remember it doesn’t stay broken forever. The pain you’re feeling right now is not going to make a permanent home within you.
You might feel like everything is unfair, like the baggage you’ve gotten from this heartbreak is going to weigh you down, but that isn’t the case. You shouldn’t think of your thoughts or fears as baggage. You should simply think of yourself as changed. And you can change again. You might not change back into the innocent version of yourself who believed the best in everyone and didn’t know what it was like to get hurt. But you can grow into someone stronger, a version of yourself you love, a version of yourself that is smarter and kinder and still open to love.
Right now, you might not be able to see too far into the future. You might be too distracted by the present. You might feel like everything is falling apart, like you’re never going to recover from this heartache, but you are stronger than you believe. Soon, you are going to be more than okay. You are going to thrive.